Samuel says fear keeps us from functioning effectively in our world—negatively affecting our relationships, our work, and many other aspects of our lives. In addition, he says fear prevents us from functioning at our highest frequencies and from reaching our potential. So, I want to share about the process of working to release fears and core issues that Samuel has taught and that have worked for me.
I find it works better if I work through a quick process Samuel taught us. First, I identify and release “surface” fears; next I find the patterns that show me the core of those fears—my core issues; and finally I release those issues.
Part One: Identifying and Releasing Surface Fears
Recognizing our fear responses:
Samuel says that when we recognize a fear we are 95% of the way to overcoming and releasing it.
However, I find it difficult to recognize my fears or even know when I am experiencing fear. Perhaps it’s because of the era I grew up in when I was told “grown-ups aren’t afraid” or “men don’t get scared” or taunted with “only sissies are afraid.” That doesn’t mean I grew up fearless, I just learned I shouldn’t express fear and learned to label it as stress, or some other emotion such as frustration or anger.
As a result, I spent my early adult years feeling pretty stressed, but thinking I had no fears. Then, I heard Samuel say: “When you don’t think you have fears, that means you are so used to them that you aren’t working on them.” That let me know that I must have fears but I just didn’t recognize them, and, therefore couldn’t even work to release them. So, my first task was to learn to recognize when I was experiencing fear.
To help with this, I remembered that Samuel teaches that behaviors and attitudes can be signposts that we’re operating in fear. Here’s a list I’ve created from Samuel’s teachings of those behaviors and attitudes:
- using poor communication habits,
- behaving or thinking with negatively,
- using or creating drama,
- engaging in poor self talk,
- looking to blame someone or something else,
- having self-oriented behaviors,
- seeking separation,
- reacting rather than responding,
- focusing on the past,
- being grumpy,
- experiencing chaos,
- feeling overwhelmed,
- feeling or acting miserable,
- feeling down, morose, or lifeless
- experiencing frustration,
- being judgmental of others or ourselves,
- desiring revenge,
- experiencing fear of pain,
- avoidance, and
- feeling particularly nervous.
Identifying our fears:
Looking at the patterns of our emotions help identify where fear is lurking in our lives. Now when I have a fear reaction I take a moment to look within and ask what it is I’m afraid of. It may be that I get nervous when I’m going to meet new people, or I resist admitting I was wrong, or I feel frustration or anger when people don’t understand or respect my opinion, I avoid speaking in front of a group of people, I’m afraid of dogs, or whatever. [If for some reason it doesn’t work to go through this process at that exact moment, I commit to myself that I will work through this later when I have the time to do it.]
If you have a different system for determining what your fear is, that’s great, use that, (and please share it in the comments below). But, if you don’t have your own method for recognizing fear, try this method.
Releasing our surface fears:
Once a specific fear’s been identified, take a moment to think about when you’ve had similar reactions in the past, then try to trace it even further back to the first time you experienced it—or the earliest time you remember experiencing this fear. Think about how that fear has served you, protected you, or kept you from harm (emotional or physical). Once you recognize that this fear has served you, you can be grateful for it, express thanks it, and acknowledge it has been there to protect you.
Next, think about how the fear has limited your life, held back your growth or kept you from expanding your experiences or relationships. Take another moment to think about whether that fear still serves you in a positive and fulfilling way or whether it is detrimental to your continued growth. You’re very likely to discover, as I did, that most of the time the fear does more harm than good.
Once you’ve realized that, it’s easier to thank the fear for how it protected you, and let it know you’re ready to let it go and move forward on your own. In the future if that fear or fear reaction starts to come up, remember it is an old fear that doesn’t serve you any longer. Thank it for trying to protect you, let it know that you don’t need it, and move on regardless of that old fear. In time, you’ll find that surface fear no longer runs any area of your life.
Part Two: Identifying core issues
Now it’s time to look at the deeper fears behind our surface fears—the core issues. We begin by looking at the fears we’ve been working on to see if there is a common pattern. Earlier I wrote that my fears may be: I get nervous when I have to meet new people, I’m afraid to admit I was wrong, I get mad when people don’t understand or respect my opinion. As I think about these fears, I realize a pattern is that I’m concerned about people’s opinion of me—I’m afraid I won’t be liked. This tells me I have a core issue about not being liked.
Having isolated a core issue (fear of not being liked), I can begin looking for the fear behind it. Samuel says almost all our fears eventually boil down to fear of separation and abandonment. He says that if we’re not able to follow our fear step-by-step back until we see a reflection of our fear of abandonment, then we need to continue working on the fear until we get there.
Samuel says fear of abandonment originates back to that point when Source released a part of itself and the Creation Process began. Despite the fact that we know there is no real separation from Source—ever, for many of us he says the primal memory of Source releasing created our core issue of fear of loss, abandonment, and separation. That shows up as the fear of “what if it happens again?”
Part Three: Releasing fear is releasing core issues (The 7 Steps)
Samuel’s answer to the question of how we let go or our deep core issues, is to say: “Replace the fear with Love.” However, getting to the point of replacing our deep fears with Love takes a lot of work. Fortunately, Samuel has given us techniques for that.
1. Focus on the moment; be in the present
Samuel says fear moves us out of the only reality there is—this moment. He says yesterday is about “if only,” tomorrow is about “what if,” and that both of those are grounded in fear. The only place there is no fear is in the present moment.
So how do you make certain you’re in your “now?” Pay attention to your surroundings: what you’re hearing, what you’re seeing, and what you’re smelling—anchor yourself into the sensations of the present moment. If you just breathe and focus on the present moment, you will find it easier to release any fear you’re experiencing.
2. Focus on you connection with Source (God, the Oneness)
Samuel says love is the highest function of Source in this world and that we remove fear by replacing it with Source Love. To do that, you simply need to remember a time you experienced your truest, highest Self, when you’ve felt truly connected with Source and Source Love, when you’ve felt unconditionally loving or love. Samuel says that when you’re focused in “now” by memories of pure, Source Love then fear has nothing to latch onto.
3. Gold cord with yourself
This will give you a way to plug those holes in your Light bodies that come from believing there is separation with Source. This mistaken belief causes your perceptions to be altered and fear to rule your life.
Here’s how to do it: First, visualize a very thin line above your ears going through your head. Next, at the very top of your head at the highest part, run a similar line vertically through your head. Approximately where those two lines intersect in your brain there’s a triangular area that contains the pituitary gland, the pineal gland, and, Samuel says, a crystalline “seed” that holds your body’s genetic make up. Everything you do physically and energetically moves through this triangular area.
Visualize a gold cord connected from your consciously Love-filled heart to the triangular cave in your brain, and pump the Love from your heart through the cord into your brain. That changes YOU, and allows that love to replace the fear.
As I said earlier, Samuel says our fears of loss and abandonment can be traced back to the initial release from Source that our primal memory mistakenly identifies as a “separation.” Therefore, what we need to do is to forgive that initial release which we perceived as a separation. Once we “forgive Source” for what we saw as an initial abandonment, we won’t be imprisoned by those fears.
What’s worked for me is the tool of contemplation. My thinking has taken me down two different tracks. The first track has me thinking about the actual “release” itself along with my understanding of Source. I begin remembering that everything that exists is Source. Because everything is, was, and will be Source, I realize that what Source released was actually Source, and what Source released itself into was also Source. In other words Source has released a part of itself into itself. That means the Release by Source did not create any separation from Source at all—any separation is just an illusion, a misunderstanding, a misperception on my part.
And, now it’s time to forgive myself for believing the perception or illusion that there was ever separation from Source.
The second track has me asking myself to think about reasons why Source might want to release a part of itself. Of course, I’m using my very limited human mind to try to understand the Creation Force of the Universe, which is far beyond what I can try to imagine. But, by doing this, it helps me understand that there are reasons I can understand for why Source would release a part of itself. For example, it may be to experience different aspects of existence such as form and all the sensory and emotional experiences that entails. It may be to expand itself, or for any number of reasons. But I’ve found that having an understanding, even in human terms of why Source might release a part of itself it helps me know there was a reason for it. And by understanding that it that helps me forgive Source for doing something I interpreted as abandonment and separation.
When we can be fully grateful for something, Samuel says there is no fear. But, if we can’t find gratitude in a situation, he has a technique we can use that will help us find it. It’s another version of gold cord work that was explained above.
For this cord work, again imagine your heart filled and overflowing with love. Now, take a golden cord of Light from your heart and attach it to the situation, person or experience that’s bringing about the fear. Finally, let the love from your heart flow through that cord to that situation, person or experience with love and fill and surround them/it with love. Keep your mind open for the gratitude that will show up. Once you have that gratitude firmly in mind, you’ll realize the fear is gone.
6. Live consciously and recognize that many fear reactions are just habits and outdated behavior patterns
Sometimes when working to identify a fear I realize that I don’t actually have a fear there, I’m just reacting out of habit. Similarly, I’ve learned that when I live consciously and am aware of why I’m responding the way I am, I can recognize when I am acting out of habit rather than out of actual fear. I’ve been amazed how many fear reactions weren’t actually based in fear, but on habit—old patterns.
But, even though fear may not be involved, these behaviors are still as destructive as those that are fear-based behaviors. The good news is that adjusting and releasing old habits and patterns is easier than releasing core fear issues. But the bottom line is to stay conscious of your thoughts, words and actions.
7. Each time you release a fear the next one will be easier
The really good news is that once you’ve released a fear you have a success that you can build on. Once you’ve released fear of abandonment and separation as it relates to one behavior, it will be easier to release the next time it comes up, and easier the next time, until fear of abandonment and separation will no longer run you or determine you behaviors.
Releasing core fears doesn’t mean you won’t ever experience fear again, it just means that it won’t control you, it won’t run you, that you’re bigger than any fear that approaches.
I hope this helps you have a fun and exciting adventure in releasing fear.