What Relationships Need To Thrive

February 5, 2012

Samuel: Hello, dears.

Hello, Samuel.

S: [Referring to the previous month’s meeting] You’ve answered your questions? And what do you know now about yourself that you did not know before because of it? Anything of interest? [No immediate responses] No, huh?

You didn’t ask this question. I don’t know if you asked this, but after the meeting, with everything I did the voice would pop in and ask “How does this fit into your life as a Guardian?” Everything. I would drink coffee, and the voice would say, “How does this fit?” I would drink water, and the voice would ask how it fit. Things that worked and didn’t work—I had to become aware of things that worked and didn’t work.

S: Very good. Anything that causes you to think about what you’re doing is going to benefit you. Because human nature—and by the way, I’m not encouraging you to flow through human nature—it is human nature that you like a routine and you are comforted by knowing what’s going to happen next because you’ve got a routine. And that often means slow death. And disrupted relationships. And the inability to play well with others because your routine is more important to you than your relationships and your social time and your ability to get on day by day. So that’s really a good one. How does this fit with your vision, with what you’re here to do. “Why” is always good. More. Aye.

I always write a vision statement at the beginning of the year. Normally I don’t ask this many questions, but certainly asking this many questions really helped me be crystal clear about when I wrote my vision statement: what it is that I wanted this year to be like; what was important to me; what did I value in the coming year? Particularly though, I loved the question where you asked, “If you were to tell God what’s needed, on the planet, what would it be?” I came up with a list of all the things that I needed to do in the world. Those things that, if I can see the need there, then if we’re an expression of Source in the world, then that should be, or I should be . . . what I should be helping to create or provide through my life. And what I did, what I thought about. I came up with a really nice to-do list.

S: For God.

For me to do. So it was good. Really cool.

S: Lovely, lovely. Lot of people in this culture who grew up with very big boxes for God—“This is what God is and nothing else, just this. This is God.”— don’t like the idea that you’ll tell God what to do here. But being able to move out of that and actually do it is amazingly freeing, because it represents a whole different kind of relationship, doesn’t it? More like a friend to a friend rather than a master to a servant. Very nice.

More. Aye.

That Sunday night, as I was listening I was trying to answer every question in real time, and it just piled up, and I realized this would take some homework. So I got the CD and put it on my iPod and listened to it a couple of times, and I was answering questions as I was thinking through it. I now have a transcript that I just got at the product table so I would be able to focus on it in a different way. One question that really stuck with me, because it’s a real focus of my life right now, is what is it that I want to be doing? What is it I want to accomplish, and what do I have to give up to have the time for it? And that gave me some real focus and clarity thinking about that.

S: Good. Good.

This year has already proven to be an eye-opener in many ways. And ideally you are making a point of staying awake and aware. Ideally, you are clear about not only your greater vision, but the day-to-day one. If you want this year to be one in which you accomplish that which best reflects what you are, if you want this year to be one that is a beautiful, powerful, magnificent reflection of what you are in this world, you must keep that in mind. Everything you do, everything you say—and here is the hard one—everything you think, is a reflection of what you believe you are. And what you are is a piece of pure Source in this world here on a mission to being about positive change that leads to the completion of the Plan. What do you focus on? Do you automatically see the positive or do you guard yourself against the negative? Knowing how you function is going to be the most important thing that will help you through this year. And that’s why you got all of those questions. That’s why you had the strangest first Sunday you’ve probably ever had. Well, maybe your first one was a little stranger, but . . .

So now a new month has begun. And this month has a lot of empowering energy about it. What can you tell me about this month?

S: It’s Bonnie’s birthday month, and there’s power about that. It’s more than Bonnie, though.

It’s a month where we celebrate love and loving relationships.

S: That’s going to be where I go tonight. Talking about loving relationships. It’s a month of Imbolc, so you’ve got an ancient Earth holiday. What is Imbolc?

It’s the beginnings or stirrings of life on the planet itself, but also the beginnings and stirrings within us of those things we’re going to create.

S: In this part of the world, not only . . . what is it? The groundhog sees its shadow or does not see its shadow, whichever it is, that represents the worst of winter has passed. Unless you live in Kentucky and then you never know what it’s going to do. And as the earth has its cycle, so do you who are here in partnership with that earth, have a like cycle in which you are also ending with the hibernation of winter and preparing to open the door to new growth and change.

It never meant anything to me when Imbolc was called the lactation of the ewes. And just now though when I thought of that—and I may be wrong with this—in order for the ewes to be lactating there needs to be little baby lambs that need that milk. So it’s a time that we nourish our new projects. And it’s the most important nourishing, because if we don’t nourish them they’ll die. I never thought of it as that point, so it’s time for planning and continuing those things we just started.

S: It’s a time in which the worst has passed and the freshening is to come. So how are you with that in your life? Has the worst passed? And are you ready for the new? Nice.

When you said, “Has the worst passed?” it’s all how you look at it.

S: Yes it is.

Twenty years ago when I got laid off from my job, at first it was, “My gosh, this is horrible,” but it very quickly was the best thing that happened to me. But the other thing I’ve been aware of is because we’ve had such a warm and rainy spring, in my yard the daffodils are coming up, and the daylilies are coming up. And like our own cycles, that you don’t want to run and jump too quickly at something before it’s the right time. I’ve been telling them, “Go back to sleep. It’s not the right time.” The analogy as we’ve been talking about that is, I want to have a full idea of what it is I’m changing and doing.

S: As well as the awareness that sometimes rushing ahead causes the opportunity to start all over again. And perhaps that is part of what the old bulbs and the excited trees are doing because death is possible.

Thinking of death, do you know that you can anoint by visualization when you are unable to be there to do it? Just making sure the one I’m talking to knows it, though. Good.

All right—a bit of interesting observation is that I am noticing relationships having a very hard time these days. Have you noticed that? And I’m not just saying your lover, but even somebody that you call on the telephone to register for something. Or relationships fall into unconscious behavior. Relationships fall when you are functioning in your routine, in your nice place of comfort, which is a rut, when you are working out of habit. Relationships fall when you are not there consciously. And the reason it matters to me—well there’s a lot of reasons it matters to me, but perhaps the biggest reason it matters to me is because you don’t change this world by your being the very best you can all by yourself. You change it through your relationships. Through your relationships. And I think it’s possible that in your personal relationships you forget that you actually have the power to keep somebody from being their best because you’re not being your best.

“Samuel, doesn’t that mean it’s a choice? I can’t make somebody do something.” When your example is “this kind of behavior is all right,” and that’s what goes into the grid, then you are affecting others, who can then think, “Well, this is the highest frequency person I know”—and everybody thinks that way, don’t they?—“and he acts like this, so it must be all right.”

And do you realize that you do that in your most intimate relationships? You forget that it matters all the time. “But I get so tired of always having to be on.” [Makes a face.] Living a loving life is a whole lot like exercise. When you’re not used to it, it’s hard. When you’re used to it, it’s natural. So exercise your consciousness toward living love until it is so natural that it’s not an effort, it’s not like, “Now I can just let go. Around you I can be myself.” What are you otherwise? What are you putting into the world?

So I wanted to put out a little primer once again about making relationships work. And it’s very important that you remember I’m talking about any kind of relationship here—the deeply intimate and the passing a stranger on the street. And the reason both of those fit into it is because your energy emanates from your everyday moment, every breath, and it touches everybody you are around. When you are walking down the street and your energy reaches out to touch the person you’re just going by, a connection is made. Are you going to make use of it or are you going to waste it? How can you make use? You’re just walking past. What can you do?

Smile.

S: Smile. Think a loving thought. Let it travel along that energy pathway. Just that fast. And when you get good at it, set it up within your thinking so that what you are doing is throughout the day, every time you meet anybody, when you pass by them your energy touches into their energy. Whenever that happens a burst of love and a smile comes from you. When you’ve reached a point that you are able to easily and quickly consciously send love, then you are also capable of setting it up so that you are constantly consciously sending love. But I want to tell you, it’s not something that you can do once and assume it’s on for the rest of your life, because you don’t work that way. It lasts until you stop functioning in a loving space. So that might be ten minutes after you start your car. And you have to reset it. Everybody that you [. . .] have an energetic touch. Everybody, is a relationship.

What does it take to create a good relationship? Well, right offhand, exactly what I said a moment ago about the person you just pass on the street and may never see again. The very first thing it takes is a conscious desire to have a relationship. You must consciously determine, “When I go by, my energy makes a connection. I’m going to send love. I’m going to smile and let that emanate love.” It’s a conscious thought on your part. So is the beginning of any relationship with, “I want this.” A conscious affirmation on your part that you desire this connection.

Consciousness is very, very important, but it also takes action. And a lot of people are very, very quick to have that consciousness, but have no action to go with that. That’s why you are consciously sending out an emanation of love, but the smile becomes the action that allows you to seal the creation. It becomes Intent and Thought and Word and Deed that way.

In other kinds of relationship in your life, where it’s more than just passing like two ships in the dark—maybe this is somebody you know that you’d like to be better friends with. Or maybe it’s a relationship that’s gone stale or a relationship that needs some starting over energy—consciousness and action need to have specific directions for those actions. So in that case . . . , and I’ve got to say, you know, in a sense it’s kind of sad I’m talking to you about this, don’t you think? Kind of sad that I’m reminding you of the importance of establishing friendships and renewing relationships, particularly when you remember that’s it’s the only way the work will be done.

So this world is counting on you. So, if Sacred Status was hinged upon how many friends you have or how often you made the effort to create a new friendship, or what you did to keep the relationships you are in right now alive and well, how long would we have to wait? And when you sit there and you think, “I have three hundred Facebook friends,” or you think, “I’ve got lots of friends. I have friends that I’ve had since fourth grade,” are they? Are they your friends, or are they part of a list of people you know, some of whom you used to know pretty well? And you know what Guardians are really good at? Guardians are really, really good at what appears to be making friends. And people talk to you about what’s going on in their life, and Guardians are really good at not sharing their own hearts, not really giving back. I’m not saying you’ve got to tell all your secrets to everybody. And if you’re one of those who tends to be closed—you know what I’m talking about here—you know everybody but make sure they don’t really know you. And Guardians are way too good at that one. You have these parts of your life that are closed off. Why? Why?

So, what are the kinds of actions that help a friendship grow and develop and become? How about compassion? What is compassion?

I see it as kind of putting myself in their place and imagine what they’re feeling and experiencing.

S: I like that. The ability to put yourself, the best you can, in somebody else’s shoes, thinking about where they might be coming from. It involves not thinking the worst, first. It involves giving a break.

It’s allowing them to be different than the way I would have them be, and be okay with it, make it okay.

S: Being okay with the other person not being the way you’d want them to be.

To remember, with something that might frustrate or irritate me, I’ve done that myself and I’d have appreciated somebody understanding or giving me a break when I had done those things myself. So, knowing mistakes happen and we’re all pretty much in the same boat. Cutting a little slack.

S: Letting yourself remember that you’re all in this together. And that just maybe this thing they are doing that’s so hard for you to deal with is a version of something you yourself have done. And what if nobody ever gave you a second chance? Or a third? Or a fifth?

There’s often a desire to ease pain and suffering, an action to make things a little better.

S: Desire to do what you can to make things easier or better. That’s an important one. I want you to think about that. It doesn’t have to mean big things. I want you to think about something you have done to make somebody’s world a little better and brighter. And I want you to think of a little something. What’s a little something a person could do?

I went out in the rain yesterday to get the paper so Steve wouldn’t have to.

S: Going out in the rain. And I am going with, usually the routine is Steven goes to get the paper? So by your going out to get it, that’s an act of loving kindness.

Leave out the garlic in the hummus so some people could eat it.

S: [Laughs] You know there is somebody you are cooking for, or eating with, and has a special-needs stomach, special-needs digestive system, and you make something that they can eat. That’s a very loving thought.

Holding the door open for someone.

S: Because you have stopped to do that, that one is extra special.

Often, when I’m driving, somebody is waiting and waiting to get in the line, and I will stop and signal them to go. By the same token, when they allow me in, I’ll always acknowledge that they have done so and I am grateful for that.

S: Recognizing when somebody has done something nice, and doing something nice.

Big paradigm shift in terms of people cutting me off in traffic. It used to be I’d be angry because they almost hit me, and I’d honk my horn and they’d get angry in turn. Now what I do is, if somebody cuts me off, my initial thought is they did something dangerous, hope they realize it, and hope they don’t have anything else happen to them and that they become aware. I might even honk my horn to let them know. And I’ve gotten a much smaller amount of one finger waves from that. Now I’ll typically get a sorry or a wave. It seems a lot better because the intent is much different. I’m not yelling, I’m just saying, “Please, be careful.”

S: You recognizing there might be more to it than what you know. “Really, there might be more to it?” But, they are behaving in a way that could be dangerous for them. You automatically start sending energy that they be all right, that they are aware of what happened so they can stop that behavior. It’s very helpful.

I need some help. I had an experience recently where someone I thought so highly of, and actually put them on a pedestal, in a casual conversation they made a remark that totally shocked me. It has affected the way I relate to them. I don’t want to feel that way. I wouldn’t say anything to them or do anything about it. Such a shock to hear that from somebody that  . . . And I know that like Steve said, you want them to think like you, but this is a far-out example. And if someone came up to you and said, “I’m a serial killer,” how do you work through that?

Avoid being alone.

S: Avoid being alone with them, yes, yes. Somebody you’ve cared about that says something that knocks you sideways because it’s a deeply bigoted sort of thing to say. Or is not coming from a place of love that you’d hoped they were coming from, what do you do when that happens?

I’ve had instances of that with my parents, my father in particular. They grew up in a different age than I did. They have more blatant racist tendencies. When they have said something, I’d say something back to them later, not challenging it. And it was interesting. The times have changed. He had said something about some black person in a store to that person, and he thought it was a natural thing. I talked to him later. He said, “You’re right. I said it, but what could I do? I couldn’t take it back.” He realized he’d said it. I can see the difference in him when he was twenty. Now that he’s pushing eighty I see the difference in growth in all of this. I think it’s great to talk about it in a nonthreatening way, just, “Do you realize what you just said?”

What if it were Lea Schultz that said something?

I’d say something to her.

I think I’d have to acknowledge the disappointment and realize there was an expectation of how someone should be and act, and realize that because that expectation didn’t get met, there might be some grief in there for this version of a person that I had.

S: Kathy’s saying she’s looking within; she’s not confronting the person with these disappointments.

I’d deal with my own heart issues first, before the whole confronting, if I was deeply disturbed by what they done.

S: Two excellent things already. The first one is, do say something if this relationship matters to you. If it doesn’t matter to you, then just look within. But what happens is people have a problem in a relationship and they just keep it to themselves. But your brain doesn’t work that way. What happens is, every time you see them you remember that thing, or maybe you don’t remember it right away, but some way, in an odd place, you’re stuffing it back again. It doesn’t go away. There is a place, exactly as David said it; it’s not confrontational, it’s not judgmental. “Do you realize that this sounded like . . . ?” whatever. But you can’t do that; it won’t be enough if you’ve not looked within your own self. Why is it bothering you so much? What’s the lesson for you within a situation like that? You feel betrayed by your expectations. And that just might be a gift.

Now having said that, I’ll also say that you want to be careful that you don’t think that your job in this world is to protect the world from everyone else, to clean up everybody else’s behavior, that you must confront everything. But if it’s a relationship you care about, if you do not get that worked out you’re going to destroy it. And you will. You will destroy it. Look within: “Bonnie, what’s it about, why am I so upset?” Then turn it around to yourself: if I did something that upset a friend like I am upset right now, would I want somebody to tell me? And if your answer is, “Yes, I don’t want to go around in this world without realizing I’m being incredibly inappropriate,” say something.

Isn’t there a place for . . . say, something comes out of someone’s mouth and you realize that they’re in a place of pain or fear or under a lot of stress. Isn’t there a place to just kind of write it off? To just go, “Eh, that kind of hurt, it kind of bothered me, but it’s not about me.” Isn’t there a place?

S: Absolutely, and the closer the relationship is, the more likely you’ll do it. It’s those relationships that could be closer but aren’t, for whatever reason, where you could be hurt like that. That compassion that we spoke about earlier—what would be the reason that this could happen, instead of assuming the worse, making it bigger and bigger and bigger. “Well, this person has all of these things going on in their life right now and I imagine unloading is what they needed, and I’m glad it was in front of me instead of someone else,” and to give that break. But be careful. Because sometimes just not making a big deal of it, not needing to confront, isn’t your being compassionate and giving a break; it’s that your inability to get out of your rut, your desire to keep everything floating along exactly as it is, rather than the opportunity to become closer and better, wins. When the rut wins, the relationship loses. So be careful with that one.

You can’t have expectations of the outcome when you do. They may not be willing at the time.

S: That’s very right. When you do say something, you’ve got to let go of the expectations that everything will be all right and we will hold hands and trot through the woods together. Because they might not appreciate it at all.

Not too long ago I knew somebody who really did think part of their work here was to correct everything they believed was an improper thing that another person said or did. They were kind of the Guardians’ one-handed police force. And that person alienated acquaintances, possible friends, friends, and family. And got used to being, “Speaking my truth,” truthful and alone. And this person now has very few friends and they tend to keep their distance, because you never know when something hurtful is going to come out. You open doors you don’t want to open.

Respect is the next thing I would say a relationship needs, and that kind of flows right in there. When it’s somebody you care about and respect and they’re having a bad day and you know it, step back. Would you want somebody to poke at you when you’re having a bad day? But I’m going to go back to what David said: There may be an opportunity away from that situation to be able to say, “I was thinking about what happened the other day, and I just wanted to know more of what was behind it so that maybe I could maybe better understand.” Again, you don’t do that unless the relationship matters, and if the relationship matters and you don’t do that, then the relationship will die. Is that clear?

“Samuel, you’ve always said that we don’t talk about our feelings to another person—‘What you did made me feel sad and betrayed and frightened’—because they don’t care.” And that’s right. So don’t present it that way. “I wanted to know what’s behind that thinking. I’m wanting to know where that is coming from. It’s not the way I think or see things, or it wasn’t where my mind was going, so I’m wondering how you’re seeing that.” Look at yourself first. Why did you feel betrayed or disempowered or fearful? And is it that person that did that, or someone out of your past, and all they did was remind you?

Another way to look at that, because I think in a lot of intimate relationships they do care how you feel, but presenting something in that light puts them on the defensive. It’s not about what was going on with them; it was their impact on you, which is of secondary importance if you’re really trying to communicate what was going on. Sure, it can come out at some point, but it’s just not the leading statement to air or to get everything flowing well.

S: Makes them defensive and it can be very manipulative, because how can you answer that? “You said this thing, and I felt this way.” “Okay.” Respect doesn’t mean you put them ahead of everyone else; it doesn’t mean you never ever have conflict; it doesn’t mean you become a yes-person. Change the word to appreciate—“I really appreciate you”—and it might make it come a little closer to home. When you respect somebody, when you appreciate them, you’re not likely to, well, if you appreciate somebody, you’re going to go out in the rain and get the paper occasionally. You’re going to see the best of them. You’re going to seek the higher intent rather than the lower intent.

Respect is a very, very rare thing today because nobody is any longer trained that somebody should have your attention. Because this is very much the “it’s all about me” age. So why should somebody else get some attention? It used to be “respect your elders.” Yes? Now you’re those elders people respect. And it’s maybe “give them a break” more than “put them on a pedestal.” “I respect what you think,” means I’m going to listen to you because I appreciate how you think.

Respect shows up through actions. What are your respectful actions? I’ll tell you one right now. It’s not a fast laugh-all-the-way-through-it meeting, but you’re sitting and looking like you’re interested; even if you’re falling asleep on the inside, you’ve got those eyes propped up, do you? That’s a respectful behavior. Do you do that with the people you love? Do you think it’s interesting that something that people often remark on with regard to the form is that when she listens to you it’s that you have her undivided attention? Don’t you think it’s interesting that so many people think that’s unusual? Because in this day and age it is. This is the world of multitasking, right? So, “I’m listening to you while I’m eating and reading the computer and watching the news at the same time.”

And texting.

S: And texting while doing so. Do you listen with your whole self? How does respect look to you? If you know somebody respects you, what’s the key? What’s the cue that that is the case?

They do what they say they’re going to do.

S: That’s very nice. They follow through with their commitments. That long, eh?

They never do anything that purposefully hurts you.

S: They don’t’ try to provoke you, they don’t try to hurt you, they don’t make joking remarks. They maybe even offer to help you. Holding the door for somebody because you respect that when you are walking through a doorway, and you are holding packages and a kid, maybe not having to grab the heavy door could be helpful. You respect their being and offer to be helpful.

Acknowledging their presence is big.

S: Acknowledgement. Remembering their name. Remembering, if you can, what you talked about. “How are your kids? How’s your . . . ? Last time we were together we talked about when this happened. Whatever came of that, what went on there?” Tell you what. Blows people away. Amazes them, because people don’t do that. But why shouldn’t you? “Well, my memory . . .” Write it down! Go back to it! No excuses. None. Spend time together. Ask. You want to get to know somebody more, ask how they can get to know you better. “Do you have room in your life for one more friend? I’d love to get to know you better. I just really enjoy spending time with you.” Well, that sounds lovely, that doesn’t sound threatening, does it. “Well, let’s do lunch,” is either going to sound like, “Oh gosh, I just can’t do that in my schedule.” Or it’s going to sound like, “Eh . . . have your people call my people.”

Lillibeth wanted to have some time with the form. Well, the form is blind. She cannot drive anymore. Lillibeth said, “Let’s go to this movie. I’ll come and pick you up.” Because you are taking action, you are asking, you are spending time.

Say your loving thoughts with regard to the other person. What I mean by that is, “I love that haircut on you”—if you do. “That’s a wonderful color!” You’re not even having to say it looks good on them. “That’s a great color! I love it!” Speak the good stuff out loud so they can hear it. When somebody says something like that to you, how do you feel? Why don’t you give it back to others?

What are the two things that all humans want above anything else? Respect and recognition. Recognize the good stuff, you get more of the good stuff. But make it a habit, because then people want to be around you more, too. Because this relationship thing is two ways. “I’d love to be around you more, but I’m always depressed, complain a lot, see the worst in everybody, gossip and am not very friendly. So let’s do lunch, all right?”

So you want us to lie?

S: I want you to get into your cave when you’re in one of those moods and get out when you are not—to see yourself as a joy guide. As a joy guide, passing out love by way of those nice little things that can make somebody else’s day that are so easy for you. Speak your heart to those you are intimate with. Intimate doesn’t have to mean sexually intimate. It means that you consider your best friends or your long-term committed relationship. Express your love. “Oh, they know it.” Say it. Say the words. Say them often. Often! Bring excitement to those around you. All right? Now.

That’s right. Be careful with this one. Be happy, be joyful, be fun to be around because you are positive, you are energetic. Be the kind of person you enjoy being with. That constant energy can become kind of frenetic, right? Can be kind of tiring to be around, but it also can be a very nice break from what people are around ninety percent of the time.

But just as you are aware that people need a little more happiness and liveliness, so they also need a bit of peace, so you are consciously looking to see what it appears would help the energy in a place, consciously looking to see how you can be of help to raise that energy. And that might be by Frank popping off with a few puns, yes? Word games to make people laugh. It might be just a quiet being there while you are being there. In intimate relationships the first thing that goes is the loving language: saying nice things, complimenting, helping to build them up, saying, “I love you.” First thing that goes. Second thing that goes is passionate behavior, and I’m not talking sexually. Having things in your life that you are excited about. Having something together that you are excited about, that you have in common. Laughing together. Playing together. You’re good at working together. Can you remember how to play together? Guardians are forgetting how to build a relationship.

What’s your attitude about Valentine’s Day? All right, the silliness of making St. Valentine the cause of a day dedicated to love aside, is it something you really enjoy? Because you can use it to enhance your relationships, and it’s coming your way. Marion isn’t it your birthday?

Yes.

S: Aye. Because it’s a day in which it’s considered all right to give a silly little word of love or recognition. Maybe you want to buy a pack of children’s valentines and hand them out to the people that you see at the grocery. Maybe you want to buy vegan lollipops and send them to your friends. “I didn’t know you when you were a child, but I bet you were a lot of fun then because you sure are now.” Just use it to see if you cannot enhance, deepen, make better, the relationships in your life. And no, you don’t have to go and buy valentines.

Make them out of a toilet paper roll.

S: The form’s rolls. Yes, yes. But it doesn’t have to be a Valentine’s Day thing, you know. Every day.

This world is not going to change if you just keep doing the same old stuff the same old way with the same old people. If you don’t know how to have a close relationship, tonight has provided a lot of starting places. Learn to show you care. Create heart-felt relationships even with those you just pass on the street, because you can make a difference. And you can make a difference for good rather than as an example of what a Guardian should not do. And I highly recommend that.

Be the example of the best. You bring more love into your life, then you put more love out into the world. Be willing to bring more love into your life.

Heart-felt relationships. Change the world one friend at a time.

Glochanumora.