November 3, 1991

Samuel: Hello, dears.

Hello, Samuel.

S: Some very important conversations this night. So let’s get started with a couple of gifts. But these gifts I want to be just a bit different. I want you to think about, since this is November, what you’re thankful for. And as you think about that, turn it into a gift. Let’s have a few short ones.

It’s easy for me to think of something I’m thankful for. Recently, since I was born, I’ve felt like a lot of things were overwhelming in my life, and I have a tendency to put them outside of me. There were all of these things that seemed to be out of my control—society or financial structure, or whatever.

S: Them!

And I always felt that, no matter how good or wonderful I was, there was no way I was going to win. I just couldn’t defeat them. And so I’ve been doing a lot of thinking, using all the tools and things. I guess that’s where the thankful part comes in—for Phoenix and the people and the gifts I’ve heard and all the things I’ve gathered in my own tool bag. And so I started thinking that, instead of looking at it that way, maybe I could use these tools to just look at it differently, and change the perspective of the big them and the little me, and make the little me into a big me, and then shrink them down to size. And so that’s what I’ve been doing, and I’m so excited, because I’m beginning to see progress. Instead of little me fighting all of them, I’m beginning to realize that, when I start making motions and taking an action, even though it might be difficult for me and the fear might still be there, I’m getting more help, and it’s getting easier and it’s starting to flow. It’s a really good feeling.

S: Aye. Good work. More.

There was a time not too long ago, maybe a year and a half or two years, when I didn’t think I was going to live another day. I didn’t think I wanted to live another day. And it was a lot of work to pull myself out of that dark place, but I did, with some help from a lot of wonderful loving friends. And the point where, not only do I want to live another day, I’m delighted to be alive, every day. It’s a celebration, and things take on a sacred tone to them, and it’s wonderful to be alive. Life itself is such a wonderful gift that for most of my life I took for granted, and I don’t anymore. It’s too special to waste.

S: Beautiful. Thank you. Aye.

Well, I’m really thankful for all the abundance in my life. It’s come on all levels and it seems, as I go along, I pick up—you know, like rolling stones gathering moss, it does. As I apply the principles things flow more easily into my life like never before. It’s just amazing. I mean, I did a quick little meditation just a little earlier, and somebody handed me a hundred and fifty dollars tonight.

S: It works! Good. Aye. Good work, group.

I want what you heard tonight—it’s, first, you are not alone. You don’t have to be the little guy fighting the big giant IT. You have tools at your disposal with which you can shrink the difficulties and increase the personal power. And doing those things gives you the will to live again—happily, joyfully, gratefully—which brings about an abundance on all levels. Your life really can be that way. You don’t have to be exhausted because stress is draining all your energy. You don’t have to be sick all of the time—if not physically, in your heart. You don’t have to feel overwhelmed by the bad guys and powerless. You don’t have to be alone. It’s not always easy, but it’s not meant to be hard. And in the very same sense that you always get the political leaders that you deserve, you are always leading the life and having the experiences you deserve. And ultimately it becomes a matter of changing what you believe you’re about and what you believe you deserve, in a practical fashion that takes away excuses. That’s what it’s about. Thank you.

Very, quickly—we are coming upon January 11. Now I know that some of you are actually thinking that you are coming upon 11:11 now, right? Something’s going to happen, eh? But, as a reminder, 11:11 is not about the month and the date, and the fact that January 11 is the date that is chosen has nothing to do with month/day.

You are coming toward a Gateway. I’m talking to the individual that resides deep within your heart of hearts, talking to the individual that knows that there is more—talking to you, who is ready. It’s to you that I want to put out the reminder that somehow you have known that there are places upon this earth that have their own sort of power, places you relate to. You are aware that you are more than just the flesh and the dirt you carry about with you, that you have a whole response system within you, and that you respond to people, to creatures—goodness, some of you even to the plants, many of you to the minerals. You are aware of a subtle vibration that moves through everything—life force. And at times you feel vital and alive, impassioned. At times you feel absolutely at one.

And you think, now and again, that it’s where you go that gives you feeling. You think it’s who you’re with that gives you that feeling. You think it’s what you’re doing at the time. And all of those may be true. My point is you are aware of the ability to connect outside of the mundane, and that’s what 11:11 is about.

Now, how many of you, over the last month, since we last had the opportunity to chat like this, have been finding a very disruptive influence meandering through your personal relationships? How many of you have been finding that your personal relationships seem extremely frustrated? That in fact you’re finding yourself in quite a bit of confrontation of late, and you’re thinking, “Now wait a minute here; I’m doing all of my exercises (we’ll talk about that lie later, all right?), I’m being consistent with all of my spiritual work (that one, too), I’m doing everything that I can, and it doesn’t appear that everything’s just smoothing right out. In fact it seems that people are coming out of the woodwork to be difficult.” Anybody here been finding that’s so? Probably all of you. Only a few are willing to say. You’re thinking, “I think this is a setup. I’d better not say. He’ll say it’s my fault.”

That shows you two things. The first thing is the energy that is building, is building rapidly and powerfully. Everything upon this planet—for every action there is a reaction—everything works in balance. As a result of that, when there is a strong swing in one particular direction, it is felt. You throw the rock in the water and the water gets … out of adjustment. It gets fractious. The water gets off of its still calm surface.

Well, darlings, you’ve thrown a rock into the world, and those around you are saying, “Wait a minute here.” And in the only way they know how, they are responding. You are seeing a very good thing.

Second thing that you are seeing—not only are you seeing that on a personal level, but you are also seeing that on a planetary level, the acting out of change. Look for that to continue. The key, however, is not to be the victim of it. The key is to learn how to avoid or heal these conflicts, because you’re going to have them.

And I want to talk somewhat about that this night. But my way of meandering into that is to talk just a bit about the nature of this month. You are in November, and for those of you that are from this country, you are aware that November is your thankful month, right? The month in which you are drawn toward thanksgiving and giving thanks—there is a difference. And so I want to get a quick sermonette in regarding that.

Until November 11 you are continuing in a very powerful time of manifestation. Thankfulness is a part of manifestation. Remembering first that you’re only thankful for that which you’re finished with—lets the Universe know that you are ready for something else. So a true Thanksgiving, which is an expression of adaptability raised to the highest level of consciousness—a true expression of thanksgiving says to the Universe, “I got it—so back off with the two-by-four.” And it’s an aspect of manifestation because it opens the door for more—”I am aware of what I have. I see its power. I am grateful.”

“But, Samiel, I am aware of what I have, and, to be very honest, I’m not particularly grateful for it.” What you resist is what you have not completed. Resistance is the activity of fear, and fear is a very strong magnet that draws what you are fearing right to you. Threats over.

Allowing yourself the opportunity to bring thankfulness, gratefulness, back into your life allows you to live again, because to go about your day-to-day life in an attitude of thankfulness lets you work with a perspective unlike the one that usually moves you through the world. It is the work of the creative mind to be able to be thankful for everything. That is a joke, but it’s true. So you can laugh at the truth of it.

What that’s saying essentially is that now and again you’ve got to very creatively come up with the reason you’re thankful for this thing, for this situation, for this person. And the creative mind is the doorway to spirit.

Thankfulness is a manifestation of your relationship with Source, because it recognizes that you are sharing control.

What is it you are thankful for? Perhaps you can learn more about yourself by thinking, what is it you’re not thankful for. And let me remind you that to create this Gateway on January 11 it is going to require positive action, and thankfulness is a positive action. Putting yourself into that habit now can help in that process of consistent change. Thankfulness.

The things that you’re not thankful for tend to be areas in which you have conflicts, and I wanted to use this opportunity this night to talk to you about resolving conflicts. And I want to talk about that because so many of you are finding yourselves, in every area, running up against walls you thought you had broken down long ago, because you are finding yourself at odds with other people, because, as you are moving toward your own power in a greater and greater sense through this, as you are in a leadership position, you find that one of your inabilities is to deal with conflict. Because you are finding that, in your life right now, you want the unity that this year, this time, is about.

I want to talk to you about conflict because, to be very, very honest with you, some of you are so botching your interpersonal relationships that it is literally going to put a bond around your ankle and keep you from the ascension process. The part of you that is so afraid of change is so in need of controlling that which you cannot change in order to at least shine, that you’re turning people off. And, sweet souls, we need to talk about that.

As I said a few moments ago, conflict is essentially an aspect of love that has not been worked through. Do you understand what I’m saying there? Conflict is an aspect of love. What does that mean?

When you have conflict with someone or a situation that they weren’t meaningful to you and there wasn’t a feared lack of love . . .

S: A feared loss of something. Very good. You have conflict in three major areas of your life. Essentially—and only because it’s so very convenient—in all of the physical areas of your life, all of the mental areas, and in the spiritual areas of your life. The way that you express conflict shows what it is you are lacking, and it also shows you, as the responsible party, the direction to go to heal that conflict.

You have individuals who, when they are working with you, loving with you, sharing space with you, have particular styles of expressing themselves. What are the sorts of styles that you see as conflict? You have the individual who wants to talk it out, aye: “Let’s talk this over. We have a difficulty here. When this happens, I feel this. Let’s talk.” You have the individual who doesn’t talk, who blows up: “I’ve got to let off a little steam. It’s important to let off steam.” They blow up. You have the individual who won’t deal with it at all—total denial: “There’s nothing wrong. What do you mean, you’re miserable?”

What do you have? What are the versions of expression? What are you seeing? You’ve got the individual—I’m just going to keep going on until you start taking part here—you’ve got the individual who holds all of their angers within them, and all of a sudden you leave the top of the toothpaste off just once, and every awful thing you have done is not only enumerated, but it comes with dates.

What else?

The person who takes it all within and says, “It’s all my fault. What have I done to create this. How can I change. I’m a bad person. I’m thoughtless, I’m horrible.”

S: “It’s all me.” Aye.

You have the person who already has decided that they’re mad at you about something, and they make up some little question that’s going to give them a chance to let you have it. And they ask you, and you answer, and they go crazy, and you don’t have any idea what’s happened. I’ve had that happen a lot lately.

S: Aye.

How about a corollary to that one—the person who gets you out in public and makes little potshots where you’re unable to find out what’s going on without making a big scene. How about the humorous punches—”Just kidding. Goodness, you’re touchy.”

If you’re relating to any of these versions of interaction, let me go ahead and reassure you, this is not healthy interaction. If you recognize yourself in any of those, help is on the way.

Any more? How about the promisor?

The one who says it’s always your fault, no matter what goes wrong.

S: Not “It’s always my fault,” but “It’s your fault.” The blamer.

Just when I was thinking about having something to do with people, you’re listing all of these reasons why not to.

S: Clearly, darling, the greater challenge is to overcome these prejudices.

Punishers come in all sizes and shapes, also. How do you get punished by somebody that you’re trying to have communication with?

Silent treatment.

S: Aye. The cold shoulder. How else?

The revengist—taking off his underpants and pooping on the floor.

S: And hopefully this is just with very small children.

And you say, “That is the reason I am going to choke you.”

Aye, the punishers.

I get a lot of defiance, as a school teacher. When you request them to behave, they can be very defiant.

S: What is defiance?

It’s not like “I’m never wrong, it’s your fault,” but it’s another variation of that.

S: How will it come across?

It comes across in what they say or . . .

S: That works. If it’s what they say, they might actually say, “No!”

Body language, too. Or the teacher says, “Sit down and be quiet.” “You didn’t tell her to sit down and be quiet, and she’s doing the exact same thing I am.” That kind of stuff.

I have people who try to be so helpful. And telling you where you went wrong, and they just won’t stop. And they keep telling you the same thing three days straight, and then send a letter.

S: “I’m doing this for your own good, because I want to help you function better in this group. Let me help you by telling you how to do things my way.”

The message is that you’re inept, and they can do it.

S: They’ve got it and you don’t.


S: Good one. Good one. Punishment by guilt. Anybody here ever get that? Anybody ever give that? Emotional manipulation, which is why most adults have very strong walls built firmly up around them. They learned early on that to be vulnerable meant you were creating the target somebody was going to hit.

Conflict is always the result of caring without communication. Always. Caring without an outlet through which to express it. That is why small children who are just beginning to experience hormonal urges will fight a lot with one another. Why is that a known human characteristic? Because when there is not an avenue to express that caring, frustration is the result. It is because you care that you have conflict.

If you can allow that to be the number one given, then you can begin the road to healing that conflict. “If we are having this difficulty, it must mean we care, because I don’t care what the person at the supermarket says, how they look at it, why they snort when I walk by, but when you do it, it breaks my heart.” It’s because there is caring.

The expression of discontent shows itself up essentially physically and mentally. Although it does show itself spiritually, it means for these examples I am going to bypass the spiritual output there. The reason is, although for the physical I am using your physical body and the constructs of the world around you, for the mental I am using the way you think and the emotional constructs, I want the definition for spiritual not to be the means through which you act out your spiritual activity, because it is when you must act out your spiritual activity that you have spiritual conflict. When you are spiritual, when you are living it, being it, not having to do this and this and this so the world knows you are doing it, when you are living your physical and your mental at the highest level possible, doing the best you can, thinking the best you can, where you are with what you have at the time, then that is spiritual. So remember, when you find that you are having conflict, disagreement, difficulties, in the arena of your spiritual experience, be aware that somewhere you are trying to judge your spiritual activity as you rather than you choosing to do some spiritual activity. As long as who you are is based on what you do, you’re going to have spiritual problems. But when what you do is the result of who you are, you have balance.

So the first direction is the physical. Those individuals who have to let off steam, who take a shot at you, who yell—have you ever known anyone who yells so much that the veins on their head and throat start popping out?—those whose conflict shows itself to you through physical manipulation are dealing with issues of security. Physical expression is the expression of your security.

It’s not so much what’s coming to you that I want you to be aware of, though, as much as what you’re putting out, because I don’t want to talk about recognizing conflict; I think you’ve been in the world long enough to probably have a pretty good feel about that, but instead how to resolve it, how to clear it up, how to do something about it.

Physical situations, physical expressions—for instance, body language, tone of voice, volume—physical closing down, backing off—stop and ask yourself, “what am I dealing with here?” Is this individual here so—and the key word here is going to dramatic—in the individual who is being so dramatic here, what is the issue? And the issue ultimately is going to be one of security.

What are the major issues of security for a newly awake or asleep human? Self—I’m not enough. Space—possessiveness—need to control. And sex. The security issues are coming from those. The physical body shows itself.

But that’s not the only sort of conflict. There’s also the mental sort of conflict, where you don’t see the person punching or yelling, where you don’t see them stumping around the room. What you get instead is that cold shoulder, the silent treatment, or mental or emotional manipulation. This is the sort of experience in which the individual will bring up the memory: “When you were four you did that very same thing, and I hated you for it then, and I hate you for it now.” “Over the last four Monday nights, you have done this very same activity wrong the whole time.” It’s where you’ll get sabotage: “Oh, I’m so sorry I neglected to give you that phone message. It was your most important client. I’m so sorry. It won’t happen again.” But it does.

The issues here have to do with—and don’t be so very surprised—creativity. Here is where you run into most of your problems, so I’m going to give a bit of time to it. When an individual does not have a creative outlet, essentially it is saying that they do not have an expression of their feminine energy. The creative outlet is the doorway into the spirit self. When an individual does not have a creative outlet, then everything they are doing is based in action, the masculine expression. Rather than the creative source point, rather than thinking it through, it’s just do. It is the aimless, goal-less lack of vision that causes them to strike out where there is difference. More often than not, what you run into is this suppressive sort of conflict when you are working to express your best spiritual self—somebody who must be better by making you worse, who gets in touch and tells you all the things you’re not doing to help you.

And so the direction that you want to take is offering options, so that this individual is empowered again with choices, so that this individual can begin with the seeds you’re tossing out there. If you respond in kind, you’re going to lose that connection.

The mental-emotional connection needs a creative doorway, so when you are getting emotional manipulation, when you are getting mental games, word plays, when it’s the quiet, not discussing, trying to ignore, your response is, “There are options here. What can we do? How can we bring about change? What do you want? How can we do that?” Resolution comes ultimately when the spirit is kicked in, because resolution is the work of unity.

Unity is win/win, not I won, you lost or you won, I lost [or] now and again you win, now and again I win; we keep it balanced, and we’re all right. Do you hear that? How often in your life do you think that it’s simply a matter of sharing the winnings now and again that makes you think you’re solving your problems. “Well, we balance out. Sometimes she gets what she wants and sometimes I get what I want. And that’s what we’re after here.” Nay. What you get resolved is that immediate situation, not the problem lying behind it.

The spirit connection is unity, and unity says, “Let’s both win.” Which means you are the responsible one. Somebody remind me why you are the responsible one.

Because you’re the only one over which you have any control or any input. You have to be responsible.

S: All right. That’s fair. Because you have control over you, so you are responsible for you. That’s part of it. Why else?

Because we chose the experience.

S: All right. Because the more you grow, the more you become aware that you take part in this and you chose it.

We’re the ones who are observing and judging it to be a situation of conflict, and we’ve decided we don’t like it, and so we’re the only ones who can at that point do anything to change it.

S: That’s in there, too.

We have pretensions to consciousness.

S: Because you’re awake. Because you’re awake. Because you are currently on this planet choosing to express the highest part of yourself, because you know that you’re here to serve, and what that means is, you are not only looking out for your interests, but you are not going to fall down to the level of manipulation and sabotage. You are going to choose positive activity, but in order to clear up a bad situation, you are going to tell why you’re making every one of those choices, which means you do get your own version of manipulation in there.

“When you say what you just did, I feel really frustrated, because I don’t know how to answer something like that. And because I don’t know how to answer it,” (hear your process working) “rather than just getting angry and getting defensive, can we come back and talk about that later?” Yes, you’re right, that’s avoidance; it’s amazing how often it doesn’t show up later.

“It looks like what I just said has really upset you. I feel that it has, because all of a sudden it seems like I need to turn the volume down a little, and it has not been my desire to do that. I’m really sorry. What I’m trying to say …” Use your process. Expressing “action makes me feel …,” so that you’re not taking shots at the individual. “This action makes me feel.”

And when one of your buttons is pushed, claim it, not because it empowers them, but because it empowers you. Do you understand what I’m saying there? When they say or look or shift and glare, or whatever else it happens to be, you say, “I’m really sorry. I got a flash of being four years old with my mother talking to me, and I can tell that for the next ten minutes I’m going to be just reacting to that, because when you sound like that it sounds very maternal, and I feel like you’re condescending, and I know that you wouldn’t be doing that, but that action makes me feel that way.”

Do you know what the only risk in conflict resolution along these lines would be?

That the conflict will go away.

S: Well, that’s one of the advantages.

Some people feel the need for conflict, though.

S: Some people do feel the need for conflict, because it motivates them—stress for success.

You might have to change.

S: Well, that’s in there, too. You’re right.

You may find out that you’re the cause of it.

S: Oh! You might find out, by sitting through and not walking off, by not holding it in and getting angry, you might find out that there is actually something you can do to enhance every one of your communications, because you can learn from your conflicts. You can learn how to stop having them.

You cannot go into the Gateway as an ascended being without completion. Next month, on the first Sunday, I am going to be working with the group, showing the ritual, expressing what it’s about and what you’re going to do, and setting up opportunities to practice that. I will also be talking about such things as the final detailed connection, but it’s not going to be of any use to you at all if you’ve not figured out how to live in unity, because synthesis is unity, and spirit learning how form works is unity. No conflict—clean it up; get it over with. No conflict.

You’re dealing with individuals who are guarding their lives because their security is at stake, or you’re dealing with individuals who are guarding their hearts because they don’t know how to express their hearts. That’s what conflict is about.

Because that mental/emotional connection is what you deal with the most when you’re dealing in conflict, I want to remind you of a few very simple things you can do to strengthen your personal mental/emotional/creative energy. What you can do to set up opportunities to feel a flow, a oneness, because these are the sorts of simple things that you can put into your life every day that will allow you to be that much more strengthened.

Yes, you’re absolutely right, tonight is very different from the usual 11:11 information I have been giving these last few months, but it is perhaps some of the most important 11:11 information I have given, because I am watching you. In your conscious process of growth I am watching you run into old problems and fall back on old solutions that won’t work for the new you. I’m so tired of watching your nice little faces get smashed against those walls. I’m so tired of your not working together, human to human.

Get out in the garden, because the plant kingdom works on the emotional level. In the sixties your scientists determined that they responded to your thoughts, your emotional impacts. Many of your hospitals are putting plants in all of the rooms because it makes people feel better. And many psychiatric institutions are finding that, by having their patients work out in the garden with plants, they seem to get happier and move out of states of depression. I am sure that, on a worldly level, they could just say putting your mind on that sort of focused, non-thinking sort of work is very healing. I’m sure that they’ve got all kinds of real good explanations, don’t you know, for taking a walk in the woods and why it’s so invigorating. Let me tell you why. Because that plant loves you, really. It just gives you unconditional plant love, and you respond to it. Get out in the garden. You will see consistent success. Put the fork in the ground and aerate that soil, and the plant gets healthier and you get to see it. “Something I did made something better. Good for me.” It blooms, it grows; you see it. Get out in the garden.

I have bribed Frank for years with this promise: Frank, what you do in the house, I’ll do for you. You clean the windows, I’ll help you see better. I’ll help you understand what’s happening. You stabilize the foundation, I’ll help you feel more secure in your own foundation. Essentially that’s what working in the kingdom of love does for you; it gives you back that flow.

Some of you who are already in the fields of medicine and counseling could take this interesting bit of information and create some very interesting books: The Next Therapy, Plant Therapy. It’s not new. You wouldn’t be quite original.

You could give yourself fifteen minutes of quiet time, unplanned time, that is in a room that doesn’t have any electrical hookups hooked up. Just unplug the television and the microwave and the—don’t do it in the kitchen—unplug the lamp. Just let everything be quiet, and listen to just the sounds from outside. Perhaps get yourself away into a meadow and give yourself fifteen minutes of just earth noise, if you have that availability. But get away into a room that doesn’t have working electronics just for a few minutes, and be quiet. If you’re thinking, think; that’s all right. But don’t be doing anything. Don’t write; stop bringing your needlework. Breathe deeply a few times.

Simple exercise. Here is where the walk shows itself up as very, very good. Get out and take a walk, but because what you’re working with is oneness, don’t take that walk thinking, I’m going to get my exercise in now, and I’m going to put on my straps and I’m going to walk very fast. Meander; look for something new every day—something new. Ask the Universe to show you a gift, “Show me something wonderful.” And look for it. Challenge yourself to be where you are each step of the way. “What am I smelling? What am I hearing? What am I touching?”

Know what it is that touches you in to your flow. Perhaps it’s music; perhaps it’s dance. Perhaps it’s love-making; perhaps it’s certain friends. Know what it is that gives you that sense of wholeness, and consciously do that.

Practice everyday ecstasy. Ecstasy is the result of conscious spiritual activity, because spiritual activity is simply that which is the physical and the mental raised to the highest level.

One last thing: Get involved with people. Get out of your rut; get out of your cave, and get involved. Do lunch. Meet at a movie. Share a meal. Write love letters to everyone you know. Stuart wants a love letter. It’s the letter that says, “I saw this and thought of you.” It’s the letter that says, “You smiled at me the other night, and it was just the lift I needed. Thank you.” It’s the letter that says, “Thinking of you. Call me sometime.” You see, an action motivated by a desire for unity is an expression of love.

Touch. Oh, you know, it’s one of my favorite things to ask you to do. Be good Baptists here right now, and let’s prove a point. I’m going to make this a strongly pagan ritual. Your breath is a symbol of life, so I want you to take a deep breath and to think about love. Breathe it in and let it fill your body, and breathe it back out. You are a magnificent piece of the Source, and you can love that Source in you. You can love the you that enjoys the sound of the birds. You can love the you that enjoys music. Remind yourself that you love you. Your self needs that so much more than you give it. And remind yourself that you don’t have conflict with you. You just have a few fears that you’re working on. And then, absolutely with a thought of love, take a deep breath and blow it gently into your right hand and reach that hand over to anybody near you and love them. Love them.

Now, very quickly, freeze, like a child’s game. Freeze. What’s happening to your face right now? Aye, you feel playful.

A fun exercise is to start every morning by reminding yourself that you love you. Take in a deep breath of cosmic love, letting it fill your body, mingling it with your love for yourself, blowing it into your hand, and then seeing how many people you can touch with your hand throughout the day. “Oh, hello, nice to meet you. Hi there. How are you doing?” And you know that you’re sending love, and I know that you are consciously choosing unity. Consciously resolving conflict.

All right. You know how powerful this time is. You feel it. You can’t get away from it, even when you try. You’re here. Look to see how you can get involved. You’re needed.

And positive action toward unity is a manifestation of love. And you are here to manifest love through form. That’s all it’s about.

Glochanumora. Happy, happy trails.