October 3, 2010

Samuel: Greetings, dears.

Greetings, Samuel.

S: Hello, dear. [To a dog] You are welcome to be here, but you know the rules. You know the rules, yes? What are the rules? Do you remember them? Are you doing to come up here and go to sleep? Yes.

In what way did you tell somebody today that you love them?

With the creature being on stage—my dog Ollie is getting very old. He’s a big black lab, and he’s now getting to the point where he can’t get up and down very easily. And he’s scraped up his ankles, so I’ve got little baby tube socks on his ankles to keep him from hurting ankles going down stairs. But I made a big great huge bed out of a mattress pad. We walked over together and got . . . a felt, warm blanket. So he has a brand new bed for his achy bones.

S: Lovely. Lovely.

I sometimes volunteer at our local opera house, and while the name says opera house, they don’t always do operas. But today they were doing an opera, and at the intermission, I was chatting with a lady who was sitting in an area where there are wheelchairs, and she was in a wheelchair. And I was sharing with her that, although I had listened to opera, I had not seen an opera, ever. And she was just astounded by that. And then she started to share how much she loves opera and how many thousands of recordings she has, etc. And she was just so happy to be able to share that with me, and I benefitted greatly from her energy as I think she did mine as well. In addition to which she started talking about a program she’d heard on KET about how positive energy can change her health. I said, “Yeah, it can.” I said, “I really adhere to that belief,” and so she said, “Maybe I’m going to have to record that, too.” And I said, “I think it probably would be helpful.” So, was fun.

S: Giving your time to somebody who clearly needed someone to talk to. Yes. Aye.

My eighty-one-year-old father drove up three hours to watch the Ryder Cup with me, which was wonderful. And he recently got satellite TV. He’s a newbie with that. And there’s this very thick manual that comes with it how to operate the remote to watch TV. He’s pretty technophobic, and there are only three things he really wants. He wants to record a program, watch it, and know where his favorites are. So what I did is I went through the book with him, and I typed out those three things on one sheet of paper, 14-point font, and he was so relieved. He went with that going home, feeling like he could do it, and he was so overwhelmed. So that’s it.

S: Lovely. Lovely. Aye.

I called Cam today. He was at the house and I was at the hotel, and it was in the middle of the day, and I just called him just to say I love you, and to apologize, too, because my communication wasn’t as best as it could have been. But I wanted him to know that I love him, so I called.

S: Sounds like you told him twice. And this side of the room did not tell anybody they loved them. All right, Kay.

Karen, my youngest daughter, has been  . . . there’s been a change in our relationship for the better. And I asked her about it the other day, and she said going to Mexico for a month and being immersed in their culture she saw the enormous amount of respect they have for their mothers. And she said, “I realize I wanted to be like that.” And she said, “But I was so mad at you for growing old and needing family.” And she said, “I’ve gotten over that, though.” So she’s been helping me make some reasonable decisions. And I texted her today, and I just wrote to her and said, “You’re such a good woman and you have such a good heart.” It was like I told her everything in her life was going to be wonderful forever. But it was just, ”You’re a good person and have a good heart.” And it really moved her. And she said, “Mom, I try so hard.”

S: Aye. It’s one of the most important things you can do for yourself. Now, clearly it’s going to have an effect on the other person, but when because of your actions that came with the intent of that love behind it, or the specific words, “I love you,” when you share that you are changing yourself. Now, you are changing yourself . . . what do we have going here?

[Audience explains Samuel’s pants] A skirt for each leg.

S: Now what I just said was, saying “I love you,” or saying “I love you” through an act of love, is important for you, is good for you, has an effect on you. How? Frank?

Well, you’ve always taught us that love is the highest energy in the Universe and that in this, I mean, that Source comes through as love, and when we share that love, we are letting that Source energy just flow through us. And the more we let it flow through us, the more it will change our vibrations to be more and more like Source, more and more loving.

S: All right, you can go home now. I’ll come up with something else to fill the time, but bottom line, there you go. Because it changes your frequency. And for those of you who, for reasons I will not go into in detail because it will only embarrass you, but you know why, your energy is not up as high as it could go, even though you are doing your best to consciously function in love, this is a way that you can help yourself work at consistently higher frequencies. Now true, it would go a whole lot faster if you just stopped eating meat. But, you will get your energy up higher when you consciously give love. Yes, it would be a whole lot easier if you stopped surrounding yourself with people who are negative and mean and tend to bring you down to their level instead of [moving] up to your level, but acts of conscious love, words of love, change you. They raise up that frequency.

Now because it may be something to allow you to cheat a little in some areas, I hesitate to say that this is something that has a profound effect on your energy. But, you already know that, don’t you? And you know it because of how you feel when you give love.

When you were acting in love today, how did it feel? Good.

My heart and my spirit both.

S: Yes. It’s true soul food. Love is true soul food. And your soul hungers for it. When was the last time somebody said to you, by words or deeds, that they loved you? And how was it? What was it that you received and how did you feel as you received it?

It was great.

S: That’s the second one. Let’s see, what I meant to say was, “Well, this afternoon my wife gave me a call and it was great.” Yes? Good? Stuart.

This afternoon Lea came up from behind me. I was trying to work on the TV, I needed the sheet that Steven did for his dad, and she just gave me a hug and no words were exchanged or anything, but there didn’t need to be any. It let me know everything was good between us. You know, life was good.

S: It tells you life is good. More?

The St. James Art Fair was this weekend, and I had booths in front of my house, and I as I always do, I walked out into the street and said, “What can I do to help?”

S: She does not mean they were her booths, mind you.

No, artists set up in front of my house. A couple who are woodcarvers took me up on it and had been storing their stuff in my house at night for the last two nights, and they gave me a gorgeous wooden vase that they had . . . which amazed me.

S: How did you feel?


S: Greg.

Samuel, there’s times when David . . . where I look in his eyes and there’s just this incredible love coming from them. It does . . . it can do two things to me. One is it fills me with tears, good ones, and the other one is, it turns me on.

S: Both of which are pretty nice, eh? (To David) Look more often.

Which David?

S: Well, I’m not certain that any of the other Davids would have the same effect. I’m pretty sure it’s his David.


I’m always pleasantly amazed by the quiet gentle grace that goes with receiving or giving.

S: Ah! Yes. But if you don’t mind, I’m going to correct that just a bit. That quiet gentle grace comes when it is a gift of the heart. Otherwise, it tends to come with strings or wanting back, or recognition of some sort. But the quiet, gentle grace of that gift, the giving that’s from the heart, that is of love. It’s easy to forget how much you need, need, to both hear and say—receive and give—the words, the actions, of love. Aye.

This morning I was, they were supposed to get me up at 2:30 but they got mixed up and got me ready by 10:30. And so I called David, and I didn’t know whether they had anything planned or not, but they came and got me earlier than was planned. That’s an act of love to get me out of there.

S: That is, that is. And it is an act of love that recognizes it. Which is a huge part of the process. You recognize love because you love. Because you love, you see an action as a gift of love. It’s actually one of the good versions of a pretty big stupid human trick. The stupid human trick is, humans tend to view everything through their own experience, through their own eyes. You did this because blah, blah, blah. And you came up with that explanation because it’s why you would have done it. And it may be totally not why they would have done it. That’s what gets more people in trouble with each other. But when you are loving, then what you are seeing is loving. When you’re not in a place of love, you don’t recognize it. And those three things—did you get it as three? Giving the words or the actions that say I love you; receiving it in joy, in the goodness that it gives you to be able to know; and the third is coming from a place of love so that you see more actions from others as loving and good than you do as wrong or bad.

Have you ever had an experience in which somebody totally misinterpreted you? Some of you have not, some of you have. You’ve got to look at that. If it happened once, maybe a mistake. If it happened more than once, might be a pattern. But what’s the pattern there? If it’s one person who has misinterpreted over and over and over. There is a pattern if DC constantly thinks I’m doing something mean and I don’t have any mean intention at all. Sorry, DC—she does not think that. There is a statement happening there. But it’s not the same statement as when DC, and Lillibeth, and Sallie, and Martin—and I could keep going through the room—all think the same unpleasant thing about me. That’s when I need to say, “It might be me.” And that willingness to look within is also an act of love.

And when you are in a place in which you are thinking maybe that you’re not loving enough to yourself, take a look at when is the last time you gave yourself a personal evaluation. Because unless you loved you enough to want to be the best you possible, you wouldn’t do it. And you know plenty of people in this world who don’t. To think the best of another is because you are seeing out of the eyes of love. But when that person isn’t seeing out of the eyes of love and they are looking at you harshly, what do you do to do the loving thing? The loving thing might be to do nothing. “Wait! Don’t you have to defend yourself? Don’t you have to take vengeance?” Don’t you have to make sure everybody knows what the truth really is? Sometimes the most loving thing is to do nothing. Sometimes the most loving thing is to speak to that one person. But it’s not to say, “You’re just being really bad.” What is it to do instead? Anybody one step ahead of me here? Mary Claire.

To show them in your communication, first, that you’re thinking the best of them and you’re not jumping to any conclusions about you think they’re  . . . .

S: But sometimes you don’t have to jump anywhere. They’re right there in your face.

To address what the actions are, the behavior, not them as a person. It’s a choice that was made, and to address the choice and to talk about that and its effects, or whatever, and to work thorough that part, not “You are this,” or “You did this,” but, “This is what happened. This is the effect this has had.”

S: To put the focus on the action, not the person. That’s good, that’s helpful. What else? Matthew.

Another thing for me, especially when something like that comes up, is to take a moment to step outside of any kind of emotional connections I may have to the situation or the person and see where–what I can take responsibility for. I think that’s a real important step. Even if it feels like there was nothing I could have done differently, I’m a firm believer that there is always something I could do to make the situation better. So then I take responsibility for that, apologize, and see . . . and let myself be the example of how to apologize and take responsibility, so that hopefully, in the best situations, even if it’s not that situation but in a future situation, that person will be able to follow suit.

S: Well, said; good. Good.

Usually this sort of thing is at work and in my role of being the person in charge. Normally, hopefully, I would have had conversations with this person when they were behaving well, so I can draw on who they want to be being. So in the beginning I may give them an out. But if the behaviors continue, then I’m going to appeal to their values, to who they want to be being, and know that this isn’t it. So somehow, something’s gone wrong. And I would want them to be able to identify if this isn’t it, then what is it?

S: Nice.

So there’s no judgment on maybe this isn’t the best fit, the best role, or best circumstances . . . whatever. And then I let them get to the place of, if they have to leave the employment, we both can agree that this is probably the best thing.

S: Lovely. Nicely done. David.

I think what I’m doing now—I haven’t always been good at this, but I’ve been working on this—is to be looking at what I want out of the conflict.

S: Very good, yes.

For instance, if my only purpose is to get them to understand that they’re wrong, then it’s not even worth engaging, because if I know they’re wrong, that’s all that really matters to me. Seriously.

S: If that’s what it’s about . . .

If it’s a matter of opinion, or something on work. Do I think in a conversation with Mary Claire she misunderstood because I didn’t communicate well enough, the thing is, is it important enough to me and to Mary Claire to try and straighten it out, or is it the difference between calling something aqua blue and duck blue. That doesn’t really matter. I mean, how much effort is it worth? So it’s what do I want to get out of it.

S: I like that. That’s good. More. Lillibeth.

I think sometimes we can be so quick to judge. So for me I try to slow down and to hear the other person and try and have an idea about where they might have come from in order to make the statement they made or the perspective they have, and to have compassion for that. Because otherwise, I’m stepping out and only looking at it from my filters and my perspective, and I have to move myself aside to say, for some reason this person has this perspective, this thought, and maybe this desire, and how can I start to hear them to know what that is, and just try to defuse it and hear them.

S: Yes, yes. Do you realize that what you are hearing is the same thing with different pieces of when this fits, and when this fits, and when this fits. And the same thing seems to be that everybody is choosing to function from their highest no matter what it is they received. And then all of the very important and good statements that you have heard thus far about resolving conflict, about where you need to come from to be able to do that, the things to remember that are right action and right communication, that’s what you’re hearing. But it requires coming from a place in which you are choosing to function at your best.

This is October. And October is the signal that your year is coming to a close. And depending upon how close you are to that close, depends on which calendar you are using, but either way you are coming to the end of your year. You do not always have the great change in weather that center of Kentucky and the eastern United States has just had, but very often by the time this month has ended, you are pretty sure that you’re not in bare feet and shorts anymore, yes? October is very much a transitional month, and you are very much in a transitional time within your life. A time in which acts, conscious acts of love, are vital not only to those around you, but for you. A time in which consciously choosing to function at your best as your highest self is needed, or going to be more needed than it has ever been.

I want to tell you a little story that October brings up. Long ago, but not all that long ago, there was a fellow who grew up in a pretty typical family of the time. And as was often the case in that particular time was given at the young teenage years to a family to raise him up to become somebody skilled in a trade. And where he went was to a family of merchant seamen. Did I say that right? All right. He learned his way around a boat, and at that time, that was a pretty big deal because it pretty much would mean that you were always going to be able to work, which was very important. It might also mean you would be able to travel. And through time, sure enough, this person got to have some pretty big explorations for that time. He was not a particularly educated fellow, but he had a burning curiosity to learn. He loved learning about the ship, loved learning how to navigate, loved learning how to read maps, loved learning about what people thought the world was like. And people had some pretty divergent thoughts about what the world was like, not a whole lot unlike now.

The time eventually came after having explored Africa, or the coast—because this is on a ship, the Mediterranean, even went as far as Iceland, Ireland, next step Iceland—he decided he wanted to have his own ship. And that he was going to be able to figure out a new way to bring goods from where he lived to Asia, and from Asia to where he lived. And would do that by figuring how much water there was between land masses—you figuring out who I’m talking about yet?—between land masses, and by that figuring would be able to determine how much he would need and how far he would have to go to reach Asia.

So he went to King Henry, and he said, “Hey, Bud, have I got a deal for you.” All right, maybe he did not say that. King Henry said, “Let me think about it.” But he took so much time thinking about it that he went to Queen Isabella and King Ferdinand. Well, he got an audience with Isabella. Now you know, don’t you? And said, “Look, I can make you rich. You alone can own the routes that I am going to discover.” No, he did not say, “I am going to discover.” How did he say that? “You will own the routes that will bring you riches beyond your greatest imagining.” She said, “Let me think about it. But look, while I’m thinking about it, everywhere that I have rulership I will make an edict that says the people must feed and clothe you and keep you going. So wherever you want to travel while this decision is being made.” You don’t hear that one too much, do you? So it was.

The time eventually came that he came back and said, “Hello, have you forgotten me?” And to shorten this story that can get tediously long and pitiful, the time eventually came that he loaded up three ships, and took off from a place some of you have actually visited, and absolutely made the biggest fool of himself he could have possibly made. He not only failed, he failed so big that he could never show his face again as long as he lived, and he died an unknown sailor off in a land nobody knew nothing about. Right? No. Not the story. But the part about absolute failure, that one’s right. No matter how you define it, he was not in Asia. He was in the Bahamas, baby, and that’s not Asia. He looks at the natives and he calls them Indians. Why? Because he thought he was in Asia! That’s got to hurt. It was such a statement of, “I will see what I want to see. This is where I am and everything will prove it!”

“It’s an island.”

“What do you mean it’s an island? Well, it’s an island right before the main shore. Oh, this is an island, too, isn’t it?” And he went back and said, “I found it! And there are very friendly tribes there.”

“Where are the riches?”

“Really nice, good food there everywhere.”

“Where are the riches?”

“And they don’t seem to have disease, and it didn’t take as long as we thought . . . and . . . and spices . . . oh, many, many spices, because of course this is a new route for the spice trade,” which is the big riches they were hoping for, you know. Because spices . . .

And they said, “Good work! Send you back.”

But this time, he said, “Listen. I made some deals before we left last time.” Well, you know last time, before the first trip, he had set up all kinds of contracts that said such things as, “Everything that comes out of this new world I will have a piece of.” It was very good contract making, which may always happen if you’re making contract with somebody who thinks you’re going to be dead and they’ll never have to fulfill it. Which was the case. “Go ahead, give him whatever he wants. Nobody’s ever made it. He’ll never be back. We’ll never see him again.” He comes back, “I found it, I’ve got it, it’s beautiful. Just wait till you go. But I want to change the contract a little. I want every principal office to be named by myself only. As governments are created throughout the new world, I want to be able to call into those offices anybody I want. And all the good that comes must come not only throughout the rest of my life, but the life of all of my descendants forever.”

And my point with this is, this guy is so totally convinced that he’s got the cat by the tail. Would you say that? He has paradise in a bag. “I know how to get to Asia and it doesn’t take as long as it seems, and the people are nice, and the food is plentiful, and it’s incredibly beautiful and we’re all going to be rich, and we’re going to take over the place, and I’m going to name all of my descendants, some of whom I kind of already have in process, into places of leadership, and this is going to be the best thing I’ve ever done. And it’ll be good for you, too.”

And he was wrong. He went four times. He kept discovering new lands all along Central America and part of what’s now Venezuela, alongside with America. All those islands. “New lands, new people, new riches!” And he was wrong. And when it was proven that he did make a journey to a new world, just not the world they were thinking, and he did have a certain amount of claim on some pretty amazing places, and yes the route could be followed and more could go, but because it wasn’t what he said it was going to be, they no longer had to fulfill his compacts, he started spending a whole lot of his time defending himself in the courts to get the riches he was supposed to have from the compacts that had been legally made by those who unfortunately thought they’d never see him again. And he kept coming back—what’s the expression? “Like a bad penny,” or something like that? Keeps turning up. As a businessman, he did not do so well. As an explorer, with the exception of not knowing where he was going and claiming it to be someplace it absolutely was not, half a world away from where he thought it was, he wasn’t so bad. He did get somewhere, and he could get home again, and he could go back to that same somewhere.

And what’s my point? Anyone a step ahead of me again, or is that just too outrageous? Lakshmi, give it a try.

We all made compacts before we came here and we keep trying to fulfill them, and trying, and trying, every time, and then here we are and we have to find the route to Asia this time.

S: Even when you’ve made the biggest mistake of your life. Even when you are afraid it means you are going to lose all of your riches or people will laugh at you instead of raise you up and cheer you through the market place.

Because it’s not about those. It’s about finding the route; it’s about doing it. It’s not about what happened; it’s not about what we’ve done before; it’s not about what we’re doing right now. It’s about what we are going to do.

S: There are a hundred different places in the story where the one you call Christopher Columbus, Colombo—you laugh. This is how he would have said it—where he could have stopped out of fear. “What if I’m wrong? What if people are relying on me, and I don’t do it? What if the ships aren’t sturdy enough? What if it rains the whole trip, and everyone gets grumpy and we don’t like each other once we get there? What if there isn’t enough food on board because we get lost somewhere along the way? What if . . . . ? What if . . . ? What if . . . ? What if . . . ?” I guarantee that no matter what your compact is, you will ruin it with all that “What if . . . ?” Please be aware of that.

He could have failed before he started if he let that rule him, but he had quite a vision. And with the information that was available at that time, because you know you can only do the best you can, where you are, with what you have at the time, and he was pretty sure—although he certainly was no expert, but don’t let him hear that—he was pretty sure he was reading the maps right and calculating correctly—was not—that he was right. And he was so convinced he was right that he had more than half the funding lined up from private individuals happy to invest in his hope. He invested everything he had because he really believed his vision. He had others believing it, too. And yes, he failed. He failed so big and so bad. And yet, that’s not why you remember him. “Oh, everyone knows old Christophe. He’s the explorer that went and found the Bahamas. Thought he was in India.” No, in fact until just recently, you were perfectly willing to forget that this world was discovered by humans tens of thousands of years ago and recognized as an official land mass hundreds of years before Christophe Colombo ever made it.

He made a bigger stink about doing it.

S: He kept going back, and he made good of it. He fulfilled his commitments because he did not let what did not work stop him. He did not let his fears or others’ fears stop him. He kept going. And when he hit land and named it the wrong thing—and named them the wrong thing—and had the audacity to say he found it, he went back and he said, “Found it! Haven’t found all the riches yet, but they’re there. Let’s do it again.”

He went four times, never going to Asia, but he changed the world as you know it by making a huge mistake. He changed schooling as you know it by being led by a vision that was wrong, just wrong. And he did not discover a new route to Asia. And he made good out of what he did do. Because yes, he did not do all four trips thinking he was still going to Asia, but he did know that he had found a route to a place that was filled with riches of a different kind. And that although it was not what he first thought, it would still bring him what he wanted, which was riches and fame like every budding rock star.

He made a compact, and it became clear that that compact wasn’t going to happen, because, you know, sometimes life throws you lemons, and what you thought you were going to do doesn’t seem to happen. Maybe what your family thought you were going to do or what your teachers thought you were going to do. And you have a choice in front of you. You can just give in to the “what ifs,” you can allow people that you don’t socialize with and would never care about to determine how your life should be run. You can allow traditional thinking to make you choose what you’re going to do and what route you’re going to take. You can do that and give up.

Or you can be led by a greater vision. And that’s not to say that that vision is going to give you exactly what you think it is. It might not be all of the jewels, and the silks, and the spices, of an easier way to get across the sea instead of across the land. It might not be that in this particular compact you are the president, or the king, or the queen, or the rock star, or the famous explorer, or the inventor and head of the world’s richest company. Or, or, or, or.

Can you make good with what you have found? Can you see how it’s a part of the vision? Because really, in the big picture, the only thing that he had truly wrong was where, because he made up the money to his private investors and would have to the king and queen if it had not been the politics of the time creating changing fortunes.

Whose vision are you living out? Is your compact at a halt because the vision isn’t what you wanted? Can you look at the biggest mistake of your whole life and take a deep breath and turn it around and keep going?

This is a time in which you are going to be looking within, renewing your vision, renewing your compacts. How far will your vision take you? You are a being who is here to bring a new function of love into this world, a new compact with all of humanity. You are here to do it first. Can you? Are you so worried about pleasing the bigwigs or worried about losing it all that you cannot manage the moment and see the beauty and the power and the love of it?

It’s an important month. Look within. Know your vision. Renew your compact. Choose to move beyond living your life the way everybody else does. Be willing to step out, make mistakes, and keep going. Don’t give up. Keep going and let your legacy take care of itself. Christophe would want that for you.