Love Is A Force Of Power

February 1, 2009

Samuel: Hello, dears.

Hello, Samuel.

S: So you are the people who don’t care much for football, or have a machine that can bring it back to you later.

Is there a game going on?

S: All the time, every corner of the world, as well as the sports.

If you could change one thing in your life, what would it be? And how did you make somebody’s life better and brighter? Now, for a moment you might find yourself saying, “I don’t exactly understand how those two questions fit,” but they fit a lot. They’re a very good fit. So think about it for a moment. If there is one thing you could change in your life, what would it be? And, what did you do today to make somebody’s life better and brighter. And for those of you already a step ahead of me, tell me why those two fit together. Any thoughts? Aye.

For me it’s about releasing and replacing it with what works.

S: Good. Good. And both of them are things that work.

You asked about . . .

S: What would you change?

Yes.

S: And how did you make somebody’s life better and brighter? And I said that your answers are going to work together. How is that that it does so? And you said, “It’s about what works,” and I said, “Yes,” because both of them are about making something work.

It’s about what doesn’t work and replacing it with what does work.

S: That’s good. That’s good. Steven.

I can’t imagine that many of us wouldn’t desire something that wasn’t more loving in some expression, and so when you do something that is good for someone it is an act of love, so it seems to me that they dovetail very well that way.

S: I agree. And was there over here? No hands? This end of the room isn’t awake again yet. All right. Another here. Paula.

Well, I remember at New Year’s you gave us a cord and talked about the exterior and interior . . .

S: Yes indeed.

. . . to give us wholeness. And it seems to me that if you want to change one thing in your life, that’s the interior part—you’re looking inwards—and then making someone’s life better is looking outwards, and putting that out into the world.

S: And at this point, every one of those has fit perfectly with what I was looking for. Keep it up a bit.

Now, I’m asking you what you would change. I’m not asking you to say out loud what you would replace. I’m not asking you out loud to say what you did to make somebody’s life better and brighter, I’m asking you to think of those two answers and see how they talk to each other. Frank, and Mary Claire.

They require awareness.

S: Good.

I mean, I can be loving and kind to someone just out of habit and routine, which isn’t consciously making someone’s life better and brighter. And within my own life, I can just kind of go through my days—as too often I do—without being aware of what can I do to make my life better; what can I do to make someone else’s life better?

S: That’s good.

One of the principles that you’ve taught us is that if you’re needing something, or wanting something in your life, to give that to someone else. So, knowing what one wants to change, or what one wants to heal in oneself, to give that out to somebody to make their life better will help that energy come around and fulfill everybody’s needs that way.

S: Absolutely. Absolutely.

Very much the same. When I make someone else’s life better, it’s a heart opening for me, and that makes me feel better.

S: Yes. Yes.

I think that the things that I want to change are somehow connected with fear that keeps me from making that change that I desire to make. And when I recognize that, I start mustering the courage or whatever it takes to make that change, and you know the other end of that is to be able to express more love.

S:  Very good. Very nice. Aye.

Well, they can talk to each other, like maybe an elephant and a dog talk to each other, because the thing that I want to get rid of would be like something big, right?

S: Like the elephant.

Yeah.

S:  All right.

You know. And the thing that you do to make somebody’s day better is usually small, you know.

S: Which would be the dog.

Yes.

S: All right.

The way that they talk to each other . . .

S: And are you the visual aid here?

And so the thing you’re getting rid of seems so big, and the thing you do seems so small, they talk to each other like an elephant and dog would talk to each other.

S: And how would they do that?

Well, you know, it’s a peculiar relationship for sure. You can rub each other’s belly and stuff like that.

S: Do you rub each other’s bellies? So who’s the elephant and who’s the dog?

He’s the elephant.

For me, it’s about service. The aspect of what I make someone’s life better is me serving for another human, for another situation, and when it comes down to it, the thing that we really need to bring into our life is the ability to serve. And what we want to get rid of is our resistance to doing that.

S: Very nice.

For me, it’s a recognition of wholeness, so what I’m wanting is sort of that release, and so it’s bringing in wholeness, or recognizing the wholeness that’s already there. And then what I’m giving is also recognition of wholeness.

S: It’s out of that wholeness. Yes. Absolutely.

You look around the room, and what you’re looking at are some very, very remarkable people. The answers that have come out from my questions there are power-struck—sort of like moonstruck, power-struck. They are out of the heart instead of out of the brain. And the fact of it is most of the time you’re not surrounded by people who think the way you’re thinking, who choose to act the way you’re choosing to act, who have made choices that are quite different than most of those that you’re around in any given day.

That’s a very remarkable thing. It’s a very beautiful thing, and yet this group of people have pain and sorrow, they have behaviors that they don’t want anybody else to know about, and whenever they think about hidden cameras they just cringe. They have people that they love and love to be around, and people that they hope they never have to be around. They have faith, and trust, and a big abyss of a lot of not-faith and not-trust, and yet the answers were beautifully thought answers of the heart.

And the reason that I’m making this point is not to make you squirm or feel badly. It’s because you are spirit in form. You’ve got a human experience going on here, and in the very same way that you have a student experience going on, or you have a . . . any of the ways that you might live of your day-to-day self, it’s a human experience isn’t it? At least, the best I can tell. Sometimes I wonder a little, but most of the time [it’s] pretty clear, and one of the very hardest things there is to do, second to stepping out of the crowd for any reason, and risking the “What if they don’t like me?” which is a very powerful instinctual fear, built into you for a very important purpose. Second only to that one—and it’s a big one—is the fear that “I’m not doing it right. I’m not good enough at this. I’m not hearing it. I’m not doing it. I’m not . . . not . . . not . . . not . . . ” I’m not either now.

And there’s so many good, pretty things I can say, because, you know, this is the month of love, which means it’s the Guardian’s month right? So many pretty things I can say, and pretty little directions I can push you in here or there. But the fact of it is, you live in the world, and as long as you live in the world, you’re only going to be effective when you are functioning at your best and highest. But that doesn’t mean when you stop being human, when you become this wonderful, powerful, spiritual being, that all of the human part of you has put aside. If that was the case, you’d be worthless here.

It’s accepting your humanity. It’s accepting the humanity of the person next to you, and that’s a hard one. It’s accepting that it’s a constant process of change. And that goes against the human need to find yourself the perfect little box, and crawl into it and stay there forever. And then you never do anything outside of that box. You never have to worry because your whole world is created right with that box.

You know, into a world of spirit learning to be human you have another layer: humans who, for whatever reason, choose to push beyond safe, who choose to risk. Now, yes, it’s true, some of those are building . . . jumping . . . parachute, what is that?

Sky-diving.

S: Off a building?

Base jumping.

S: That’s the word. That’s the one—base jumping. That’s not exactly the kind of risk I have in mind.

Bungee jumping.

S: Or bungees or . . . I mean the risk of exposing yourself. Because there are so many people who do not choose ever to push that particular envelope, who do not choose ever to expose their truest self, there are lives built around hiding, and it creates vast, empty spaces in the heart, because when you must hide parts of you, you will never have anybody in your life you can truly trust. You will never have anybody in your life that you will fully trust that they love you, because you know in your heart of hearts they don’t know you.

But there are those who look at that great abyss, and they say “No more.” And there are those who even in childhood tended to step over the definition of Here it is: what you should do; here is what you should be; here is how you should do this; if you don’t do it this way you will cause trouble, you will . . . .  There are those who never seemed to mind. A lot of those are called Guardians.

The point that I’m going to—ah, finally, yes—the point that I’m going to is that even Guardians have secrets, fears, parts of themselves that you might even hide from your own self [sic]. Even Guardians have electricity go off, and they get cold, and hungry. I think the phrase is, “Sometimes bad things happen to good people.” The very human response to that, of course, is “It’s because they’re not good people.”

You have a life filled with choice, and everything, everything you do is based on a choice made—consciously or unconsciously, but a choice. Hindsight is when you look back at it and say, “Oops! I’ll do it this way next time,” which means hindsight is valuable. It’s worth taking a bit of time at the end of your day to look things over. What would I do differently?

And all of this is moving to love. Having lived as long as you have, even for those in here for whom it’s just a few little years, living as long as you have you know by now that there are many different kinds of love. It’s all love. It all has different perspective. It’s not all love. Some of it is lust. Some of it is emotional reactions. Some of it is habit. Those sound like very opposite versions of what is love, and yet it covers it all.

Love is a force of power. The greatest magic you learn to wield. The most powerful force of creation you have available. It is cosmic glue, and it is a factor of human repulsion. I’m just testing how awake you are.

There are two functions essentially in this world, they are . . .

Attraction. Repulsion.

S: And I just said love is a force of repulsion. How could that be? Why is it not a force of attraction?

[. . .]

S: Yes, but not altogether. Think. Think. Think. A force of repulsion.

You send it forth . . .

S: Good.

. . . from you, which is away from.

S: She’s right there at it. Anybody want to add anything to that?

I’m not sure I can say this right, but it seems like you can use love to repulse from you those improper behaviors, those improper thoughts, those improper . . . those things you don’t want in your life.

S: Have you ever heard love’s blind? And yet that’s usually considered to be something that’s not a very good thing. Whereas some of you may have remembered that I have said to you instead, “It’s a good thing love’s blind. Practice that blindness to become a better lover.” Choose not to see the behaviors that you’re afraid of. Love like Superman.

This year is going to have a lot of interesting experiences open up for you. This year is going to help you strengthen your ability to love. This year is about choices. In this world at this time there are those who have chosen to come, to be here at this vital time of transition. There are those who have chosen to take on the human experience and be a part of leading that change. You are here, no matter how it is you got here, no matter how long it is you’ve been here, no matter you are here because you are a part of that transition team and your heart knows it whether your brain does or not.

You need to love this year. Love the year? Well, yes, all right. That’s a good thing. Love the year. But you need to learn the many faces of love so that you will stop mistaking the things that come your way as unloving. It’s all love. It’s as important for you to recognize love as the stern teacher as it is to recognize love as the playful, delightful, relationship.

Have you ever heard the question, “It doesn’t matter what the question is, the answer is love”? That’s what you’re going to be tested on this year, and the first way that it’s going to show up to you is in its opposite. What is the opposite of love?

Fear.

S: Which is to say you’re going to have the opportunity to look at your fears. Now this is not a bad thing. You can look at it from afar.

How far away?

S: As far as you can. It follows you if you resist it. Love is a cat that walks into the room and spies the non-cat-person, and follows you around, and jumps up on your lap. Love is that. Love is going to test your fears.

Now when you find yourself faced with a fear, you’re going to remember this, and you’re going to say, “All right, how can I love myself out of this?” And the answer should be, “I cannot.” Hear this; this is the get-through-the-year speech. Do not resist. What you resist is getting the greater part of your energy. What you back away from, what you don’t want to have happen, what you’re afraid of—you are putting huge creative power there. The fact of it is, the older you get, the quicker you know how true it is that everything in your life that you think about happens. You think, it shows up. Now, you might be fortunate: it might show up on a film screen, and you’re seeing somebody else going through it. Or it might be some interesting omen with crows flying through the sky. It doesn’t matter. It comes into your reality. The time you give it, the energy you give it, it doesn’t matter if it’s “Oh boy, this is really good,” or if it’s “Oh boy, this is really not good.” Putting it out there draws it to you. So how are you going to get rid of it? How are you going to change that?

Well, this is about choices and it’s about love, so just to get it out of the way, all right, let’s say the first thing you’re going to do is choose love. All right. That’s out of the way. Now, really, what are you going to do?

Well, one of the things you can do is embrace it, and say “Okay, this is what it is” and function at your best within it. Like when we didn’t have electricity. It’s like, “It’s not fun to be cold, but, you know, we’ll function within it, and we’ll make the right choices within it to empower ourselves to deal with it.” And we did. So it’s, you know, it’s a fearful thing to think of being that cold, but sometimes you just have to say, “Yeah, it is what it is, and we’ll do it. We’ll deal with it.”

S: That’s good. That’s good. Sometimes you just say, “It is what it is,” and you deal with it.

Paula.

There are a couple of things that I’ve used. One is, if it’s a situation or a person that’s just very hard to deal with, I just surround it in a pink bubble of light and watch it float away. And I just visualize it being surrounded by light and floating away. And the other thing is—and a friend told me this years ago—when I find myself thinking about things that I really don’t want to put energy into, I start picturing puppies or kittens as a way of just switching my mind off, and not focusing on it and not resisting it, but substituting something else that makes me laugh.

S: Exactly. Heidi.

Well, I say, “Gosh, I’m just so glad that I was aware enough to see my fear.”

S: Good.

Because lots of times I just obsess, and when I can stop and go, “This is a fear.” If you identify it, then you have better control of it, and then you can let it go. And so for me that has worked.

S: That’s good. I’m continuing through the back here.

Well, I usually laugh. “Well, here it is.”

S: Good.

What do you know? Big surprise. Taking it in little steps. Okay, okay, I’ve resisted it. Here it is. Well, no big surprise. So—okay—break it down into little steps. Deal with it.

Also—and again a little bit on the humorous thing—I’m in a program right now called The Guardianship Program where every week we have to come up with issues to anonymously share with the group and ask for their advice. So I go, “Great! I’ve got an issue I can share.” So that’s kind of seeing a gift in that.

Also then asking for help with others, not hiding this thing, and saying, “Okay, I know this is hard for me. I’m going to get whatever help I can to deal with it.”

S: That’s good. That’s good.

In my situation over the years, I’ve learned that when I create an expectation, I create a limitation or fear. And whether I’m saying, “Oh, I’m going to go to this meeting and I’m going to have a wonderful experience,” likely I will be disappointed. Or I’ll go “Oh I’m ready to go there, and I’m absolutely not going to like it.” And generally, I’ll go “Hmm.” So if I create less expectation in my circumstance, and I’m not saying that—because, believe me, I think you’re perfect if you’re able to do that all the time—but I’m not saying that expectations aren’t created, whether I’m aware of them or not. I still make those choices to create expectations, but I try not to focus upon those because that’s my fear. So by focusing on love, to me, love in all its forms—I think you said it, and I’m going to repeat and you can correct me if I’m wrong—but love in all its forms is acceptance of the good, the bad or indifferent. I think it’s my choice whether it’s good, bad or indifferent. Is that not right?

S: That’s great. You’re doing good.

Actually, I’m going to bounce off of that. Love is acceptance. What is, is. Acceptance does not mean a lack of activity; it means a lack of expectation. Everything that you experience in your life is there so that you will be stronger, or helped by it, or you will bring to somebody else the strength and the help that they need. Everything—the little things, the big things—is because you are gaining or you are giving. When you are at a place within the experience where you realize both are happening at the same time, you are completing.

This month is about love, but it’s also about coming out of hiding. When you look at the world through loving eyes, it’s a different world. So the first thing that you need to do when you realize that you’ve got loving eyes is run to the mirror and look at you with the eyes of love, because Guardians more than ever tend to instead look at themselves through what’s not enough, what’s not there yet, what isn’t—comparative judgment.

This year, learn to laugh. All right? Put yourselves into situations that are going to bring laughter to you. Look for opportunities to be creative, to create. Every day, do something that makes somebody else’s life—all together now—better and brighter, consciously. One thing. Just one thing. When you find yourself feeling a bit locked, maybe a bit fearful, or you might not recognize it as fear. You might think of it instead as frustration, impatience, pain, suffering, but it’s fear.

When you find yourself looking in the face of fear, choose one of three expressions of love. Look within yourself and remind you that you are enough. Nothing comes to you that you do not have what you need to take care of it. Nothing! I am—well, all right, sometimes amused—but most of the time amazed at how strong you are. Look at how much you have done. Look at the world. Look at your country. This is a time of momentous change, and who knows that? Everyone in your world. Everyone in the world. Love you. Be proud of you. Remind yourself that this is nothing.

Second thing, or second choice in there: love outside of you. And what I mean by that is something to the effect of take action, loving action. It doesn’t matter what. It doesn’t matter who. You find yourself angry with Cam—sorry, love; could have been Matthew, who knows?—you find yourself angry and you want to switch out of that, do a loving act for someone else, something else, because that puts you back into your true heart. “Samuel, I have noticed in this life of great, devout service that I have taken on and are managing to work through, that sometimes I do a loving act, and the person I do it for doesn’t seem to appreciate it like they should. Sometimes they don’t think it was a very loving thing.” Do it anyway, and don’t stop. If Cam doesn’t react to it, try the next in line. You’re not doing it to bring about a change in them, you’re doing it to bring a change in you. You’re doing it to clarify you, to rebalance you.

Now, I’m going to say this very clearly. This month, you’re going to have a lot of opportunity to be out of balance. Do what you can to keep yourself clear enough that you see it coming. The easiest way for the world to eat you up is to catch you out of balance. What do you need to do to bring balance into your life? That’s the third thing. Every one of you have a different means of doing that. You can very literally go get grounded. Step out on the earth. Take your shoes off; do it barefoot. Maybe not such a good idea these days. Lean up against a tree. Pet a cat, a dog, a groundhog, a horse, the person you’re sitting next to. Actually, really, [to an audience member] hand your hand over. This behavior, this, I’m not so sure that behind the ears is so much, but that behavior is a caress, and it’s a caress that you’re not thinking sexual thoughts with—well at least not at first—it starts allowing your brain to release happy chemicals. You are relaxing yourself, and you’re giving at the same time. Now, I’m talking dogs, cats, groundhogs, horses, can be the person next to you, but be careful with that, because you are stimulating the sensory system, and that may not be what you’re wanting to do.

I’ve always thought that it was interesting that so many of you—and I am referring to those who are watching this now and later as well—so many of you, when somebody is very upset, you start petting them, or you take their hand and you pet their hand, because you are trying to calm yourself. You’re trying to help yourself feel better and get what’s needed to do whatever it is that’s coming up next. Go pet your dog, but not if it’s happy. Go pet your cat. If you don’t have a dog or a cat, well, go to groundhog.

Sanat is for rent.

S: [What] did you say?

Sanat is for rent.

S: Do you like to be petted, love.

Oh, that’s not true at all.

S: But, if it’s not petting like you pet a dog, what if it was more like this? That’s not so bad. Your mother does that quite a bit actually. It is, it is sort of a massage, but [to an audience member] come up again. Aye. Now, you’re going clockwise, aye. And you’re using—thank you, love—large circles. If you’re going to be petting a human, and not activating the sensory system, because you’re hoping it’s going to turn into something else, that’s where you want to go with it. The circular movements. Do not press. You’re not trying to make muscles release, you are calming. Try it. Try it. Well, I don’t mean exactly right now, but that’s all right too, if you wish. What you’re doing there is you are pouring out love. You are choosing a behavior that is all about calming. Do not mistake relaxing for calming, by the way. They’re very different. You might be relaxed when you’re calm, but when you’re calm, you might not be [relaxed].

This movement along the back is allowing the nerve system to relax a bit. You’re not asking of it. It does not involve eyes, which create its own chemical response. It’s simply a pattern—full circles on the body, on the back, and you’re giving it. You’re giving it because you’re going to be receiving at the same time. Now, you can do that with your cat and dog too, but it won’t have the same effect. Again, this is not something you want to do to the grocery clerk because you know they’re having a bad day. “If you just lean over here for a moment, I’ll do this thing I know how to do.” Just remember, it’s a function of giving love.

You’re going to look at your fears, and you are going to move forward right into them with delighted anticipation, aren’t you?

Absolutely.

S: You are going to recognize where your focus is a little too negative so that you’re drawing more of that to you instead of the more positive function that you are indeed ready for. You are going to look in the mirror with a loving heart, and you are going to give love, acts of love. You are going to change your choices so that without expectation and with acceptance you’re going to look out into a new world every day.

One of the saddest things that can happen is for you to take for granted the power that you have in this world to make things change. You are at a time of such promise, and you have so much to do with that time being here. Don’t get caught in being discouraged. Try every day to see through loving eyes, positive function.

Would you three serve? It’s not hard, I promise. Well, I would tell you that these are not really from the pookahs, however since that’s supposed to be the story, thank you very—wow—very, very much. Are they in little sacks? All right, it’s been a long week, hasn’t it?

Thank you very much for these lovely reminders that these three loving souls are going to bring around to you. Now, they are going to hand you one. You’re not going to dig around in their hands and pick one out. They are going to hand you one, and you are going to . . . well, my understanding is that it sticks. Got it! You are going to put it somewhere that makes you laugh, because that’s step one. Aye. Doesn’t make me laugh nearly as much though. You’re going to put it somewhere that makes you laugh, because you’re going to want to remember laughter is a function of love, which is why human passes through the ages. Laughter should be a function of love, so open that door by letting yourself laugh. You are used to wearing things on your nose, yes?

So if you would, please, give one to everybody, and just give until they run out. And if that means everyone gets one, great. Or if there’s enough for two, great. Just keep giving until they’re gone. How lovely.

Oh, she’ll get one. He’s worried you’re not going to get one.

[. . .]

S: I would say.

This is a beginning. You have been sleeping long enough. It’s time to wake up. I strongly recommend—who does not have one? Well now we’re at the . . . all right, you get another one—you are at a time of seeing you in a new way. Make some changes, changes that you’ve been putting off because you have a thousand good excuses to put it off. Make somebody else laugh. Step out of your comfy box. Be new.

Thank you, dear ones, good work.

Be new. It will make it so much better, so much easier.

I get you twice next month so what I would like to do is bring two of my favorite Sources up—you choose which one when—to do questions and answers both times. All right? Here is the rule: write it down. One question per card, paper, whatever it is you write it down on. If you do the “So I’m wondering about this, which makes me wonder about that, which makes me wonder about this, and then . . . ” to where I must say, “Which question are you wanting answered there?” Source will toss it out, won’t they? One question. Now, you can staple the others to it, but one question. If you make it a yes or no question, you’ll only get yes or no, but if you get really uncreative and then just give your yes-or-no question and say, “Would you explain?” I’ll let somebody else do it. Really. You may not have noticed that, during questions and answers, most of the time you’re the ones giving the good answers anyway.

If you are watching now, or before next month, you can send your questions in, but if you send your questions in, where should they come?

They could be emailed in.

S: Yes, they could be emailed in. My question is where should it [go].

OneHeart is a good way to post a question so we can add them to the list of questions.

But not everyone’s on OneHeart.

S: Right. How about, Stuart, can you collect them on discoversamuel?

Sure.

S: Just send it to discoversamuel[.com]?

Info@discoversamuel.

S: Excuse me. Stuart, would you please tell where?

Info@discoversamuel.

S: Ah, so you go to the web site; you pretend “Oh, I’ve got a question. I want info.”

The email address is info@samuel.com.

Discoversamuel.com.

Discoversamuel.com.

S: I know, you’re jet lagged.

I’m just going to be watching. I think it’s going to be a very interesting time. I’m interested to see how you manage through it all. It’s not going to be a bad time. It’s not going to be a hard time. You’ve gone through the hardest already haven’t you? You would not be where you are right now if you had not. Nothing comes your way that you don’t have the equipment to manage. I could have said that better.

Could it be a fun time?

S: Sure. Sure.

Laugh. Give. Be.

Glochanumora.