June 4, 2000

Samuel: Hello, dears.

Hello, Samuel.

S: Ready to fly? What does it take if you’re going to fly?

Wings.

Someone to push.

Cutting the bounds.

S: All three are good answers. Wings. Someone to push. Cutting the bay’unz, which is not bands or . . . what else have you thought that word was?

Bounds.

S: Bounds. Or balance. Bay’unz. But you’re missing out on something. All of those are good things to have. Frank?

The desire to fly.

S: Well, all right. That might be cutting a bit closer. Sure. We’ll make it a given. You want to do it; that’s why you said yes.

You have to know […]

S: Perhaps. Maybe. Maybe. I think part of the presumption that you have going on here right now is that you’re talking about your physical body doing it, and I think that you also do it inside a very large steel transport vehicle, airplane. And then it’s more your trust in the mechanics or the pilot or something.

Well, you’ve got to have a destination. You need to want to move from where you are to somewhere else. Aye. Otherwise, you may as well just stay where you are. And do you know that that is the reason most people don’t fly? Be it in the body or otherwise. In fact most of the things that you wish you had in your life, you wish you could do, but you don’t or can’t—so you think—or the reason that when you stand at the edge of the cliff, more often than not, all you’re wanting is to not hit the bottom. You don’t have it that you want to hit the other side of the valley.

Most of the flights you do not take are not because it’s something you can’t do; it’s because they’re something you’ve not planned. You won’t go anywhere if you plan to go nowhere. It’s that simple. And yet you are in a time right now in which going is big. Really. And I’m talking going on all levels, although I’m speaking about travelling from one place to another on [in] the world as really more than travelling from one planet to another or one dimension to another. If you don’t know where you’re going, that’s where you’ll go. I’ll do that again. If you don’t know where you’re going, that’s where you’ll go. Mainly nowhere.

And at a time when the energy is change and you feel the pull for that change, you want to go. You feel the desire, and it’s showing up in such things as, Should I change the work that I’m doing? Should I change the place that I’m living? Should I change the relationship that I’m in? Should I change? Should I change? You feel movement, but you don’t know where you’re going. You’re going nowhere fast. Is that the phrase?

I’d like to give you a few ideas about getting somewhere now, ways to work with the energy of change, particularly right now. And I want to warn you ahead of time: these are not cut and dried little patterns to follow—all right, if I do this and then I do that and then I do that, I’ll know what it is I’m wanting. These are things you can do that will—watch out! Danger! Danger!—things you can do that will help you in the process of change. They will help speed up your understanding of that place you’re in, and therefore open your eyes better to what you want, because more often than not, the reason that you’re just treading water, that you feel so exhausted and pushed from all sides, that there are things going on that you need to do, but you don’t know what they are. And you’ve got changes that you know you want to make, but you don’t know what they are.

More often than not, you feel that. First it’s a good thing you feel; it’s a good thing you feel that. More often than not, you feel that, but choose to do nothing with it, because where you are is still so comfortable that you’re not willing to move from it.

And so, perhaps, the very first thing that this should be starting off with is a recognition that you’re coming from a place, or likely to be coming from a place, in which what you have is enough. And that’s a danger, because the reality of it is, for the human experience change is the state of growth. Lack of change is a state of death.

Constantly changing is what you’re good at, but you change for one of two reasons: it has become intolerable where you are, or you have a clear vision that what you want to go to is possible. Which one do you think is the strongest motive? Motivator? The intolerable situation. That, in fact, you can have a very clear view of what it is you want to go to and a sense that you can reach it, and still stay right where you are, because you’re looking for guarantees.

I would like to tell you the way to absolutely get a guarantee for what it is you want and what it is you’re after. Don’t start laughing yet. Aye, you see this front section; they’re pretty clever. They know I’m setting you up for something. Samuel’s going to give a guarantee? I heard the snorts from here.

The way that you can guarantee what you want is to eliminate every other being on the planet with free will. That simple. Because as long as there is even one being on this planet with free will, the energy of that free will is going to get in the way of your energy. It’s going to have an effect whether that effect is to hold you back, move you forward, or simply cause you to start thinking about something you’d not thought of before. All of a sudden, as you’re walking down the same rocky road you’ve walked down for the last thirty years, you notice one pebble different from all the others, and you reach down, and you pick it up, and you look at that one pebble, and you put it back down, and you keep going on your way, and the person in the back of you trips on it, because it was up on top of another rock and they had not seen it. Or maybe you’re that person in back of the one who stopped and looked at that one tiny little pebble. As long as there is one other being with free will on this planet, you are only going to be able to guess, not know.

But guessing has its difficulties, because what’s a guess based on.

What you know.

S: Right. It’s based on what you know already. And what you know already is based upon your past experiences. Are you the same person you were five years ago?

Not me.

S: Are you the same person you were five minutes ago? Is the person that you are obligated to specific actions in your life? No. You make choices, including the choice not to listen to the fear that says, Don’t change. And instead choose to hear the hope that says, Why not?

You stay where you are because it’s easier. You stay where you are because there are fewer fears here than there, you suspect. You’re not actually sure about that, but it seems it, because the people that you know who did it before have trouble with it, much like trouble you had at this time, in this experience over here. What’s wrong with that thinking?

You aren’t them.

S: You aren’t them. You aren’t them. This isn’t it.

You learn from their experiences.

S: You can learn from their experience as long as you remember that it’s not obligated to be your own. Learn based on you, not based on them.

Who here has ever had, oh, let’s see . . . a broken bone? Anybody?

Yes.

S: Several of you. Aye. Matthew, love, what bone did you break?

Collarbone.

S: A collarbone. A collarbone. All right. A collarbone. Did anybody else break a collarbone? Aye. Oh, several of you. Well, this is a fragile bone in the body. What were you doing, Jim, to break that bone?

See, the first time, I was playing football, and then the . . .

S: Did you say the first time?

Yeah, two’s a charm for you.

S: Playing football. Matthew, were you playing football? No. All right. Second time.

Second time, I was playing baseball.

S: Baseball. [To Matthew] Were you playing a ball thing? You were not. And yet, you broke a collarbone. Are you saying there’s other ways to break a collarbone? What’s another way?

Falling down could be.

A swing.

By swinging.

S: Again.

A swing.

S: A swing. You were swinging.

It knocked him over. […]

S: You are a swinger and it got you broken. Jim is always a swinger, but it was a different thing altogether. Aye.

How many of you have skinned a nose. Aye. And do you think you all did it the same way? Anybody here ever been on a swing? Any of you like it? Any of you other than Matthew break your collarbone swinging? But if you’d never swung before and Matthew came in and said, “Let me tell you, this is a very dangerous thing to do. You’ve got to be extremely careful here, because when you swing, you are going to be enjoying yourself a lot, but the swing bites. It will attack. It will throw you out of the chair, and you will break your bones,” well, you’ve got a choice there. You can say, All right, I’ve broken a bone before, and it really hurts, and so I’m never going to swing, because I know somebody and I’m going to learn from that experience. Or you can ask another question. You can begin asking people you know, “Have you ever swung?” And you hope they will not misunderstand. “And did you enjoy it?” And you can allow yourself to recognize that now and again there are ways that you can be damaged, but more enjoy. There is a bigger possibility then that you might enjoy. You can use that one-person experience, though, to just confirm your fears. I don’t want to swing. I don’t like swings. I’ve never wanted to swing. Now, I’m getting all of this pressure to swing. Look, I have a friend who broke his collarbone doing it. Therefore, I will never do it. He has proven my fear. You will always find that.

It is so much easier to stay where you are than to risk something new, and if that something new is not something you really want, you’re going to find all manner of reason to justify not doing it. And in the very same way, if it’s something you really want, you’re going to find all manner of reason to justify that, because change is here.

And the scenery shifts to accommodate the shifts here. It’s a swing. It’s a ball game. It’s a job. It’s a relationship. It’s a part of your life. In your world, you do not make changes, because you are comfortable enough with things the way they are. Therefore, as a result, it takes massive—usually—destruction to move you from here to here.

Gwendolyn called it somebody to push you when I asked if you wanted to fly. You become unbalanced enough that you find yourself in another place. You’re going to make it or not. That’s not the best way to do it. It is the most typical. When the situation becomes intolerable enough, I will then, willingly move. I will then willingly change, which is to say that the situation as it is is tolerable enough.

And the fastest way to change in that sort of situation is to find out why it’s tolerable now. If you can allow yourself to understand why it is you’re remaining as it is, you will then be able to get a sense of what it is you’re dealing with. Well, I really don’t like my job at all, but I’m not going to leave because. I’m really miserable in this relationship, but I’m not going to leave because . . . And although what you might say is, I don’t want to hurt feelings—you might have a very spiritual reason for it—it has to do really with your having found a means to get what you want without losing too much. What is it you want that you’re getting? And why does it weigh more in the balance than what it is you think you want? Is the risk of the new greater or less to you? That’s the only way change happens: when what you want outweighs what you have. What is it you want? That’s knowing where it is your flight will take you. What is it you want? Most people don’t know.

Most humans are perfectly fine if two conditions are met. They want to be occupied and satisfied. Most are ready to keep things the way they are as long as they’re occupied and satisfied. I did not say fulfilled. I did not say happy. I said, occupied and satisfied. And occupied enables the mind to be quiet. Maybe I should say it dampens the mind. And satisfied allows the heart to be quiet, or maybe I should say it dampens the heart.

In your life, the constant push of your mind and heart lead you. They lead you into complacency and a lack of change, and treading water if, by turning them off, you are willing to be occupied and satisfied. They lead you to change and growth if by, turning them on and using them well, you move instead to right action and right work.

What are ways you can do this? Turning off the mind is a survival mechanism, because your mind says things to you like, Chatter, chatter, chatter, chatter, chatter, chatter, chatter. Do this. Don’t do that. It’s filled with the information that you got when you were three years old, and it still holds chittery conversations that you had when you were ten, and when you were eighty. Oops, wrong life. Maybe a few of those too. There is so much going on there, so many aspects of yourself that all have a thing or two to say—don’t they though—that you learn to turn it off so you won’t be distracted by it. But in so doing, what you do instead actually is what fills your brain with all of those things that create that chittering. Because instead of working through and learning those voices and establishing a connection to know what it is that’s being said, you fill it with voice.

Anybody here ever watch television? Or listen to the radio where they just talk or argue, or one person discusses and then another discusses and then another and then another and then another. You walk through a place of business and there are fifteen different conversations going into your processing system. How do you manage quiet? Do you? Do you know that many people cannot tolerate silence? They want to have sound going.

You that function with such a magnetic body, you that are energy, ultimately respond to such delicate subtle emanations of energy in your world. Do you not think that the massive outpourings of energy, of vision, of pure computer-like input that you receive when you have the radio on in one room and the television on in the other and you’re walking back and forth from one to the other while there are all manner of things going on around you, do you not think that you become numb to it, because you do? And you become so used to it, but when you turn it off and you have silence, it makes you fidgety unless it’s associated with going to sleep. It makes you fidgety, because you’re not guarding against something.

I’m going to make an extremely outrageous statement here: I would tell you that those individuals who tend to keep sound going all the time, those individuals that instead of being able to just sit quietly and wait, must pace and move and do, are very likely also to be the individuals who have walls guarding their emotions, because they’ve learned to live with walls; they don’t notice that they’ve put them everywhere. That many of those same individuals also have walls guarding their mind, living in a narrow strip of life in which those things that they do are only those things that confirm what they think—don’t do much to get something new going, living in a routine, a pattern that you can pretty well clock them by. All right, if it’s nine o’clock Thursday, they’re doing this. You know it.

You can pretty well guarantee that they have less than a handful of close friends. Maybe none. Likely only one or two. Why? Because they don’t know how to be intimate, because they have those walls, because they don’t have freedom of thinking to be able to open themselves up to another. And they are probably busy all the time. Occupied. Rarely satisfied. And, therefore, willing to accept satisfaction in place of fulfillment, because when you ‘re not satisfied, even just satisfaction is enough. And one final thing that you’re likely to find: They always have drama going in one way or another, because drama replaces passion.

That creates a view that where I am is safer than where I might ever want to go. What I’m doing right now is enough, because it’s not making any waves, and I can manage like this. And the difficulty with that right now is that your world is changing too fast for you to be able to manage even being occupied and satisfied in a situation like that. And more than that, much more to the heart of it, you would not be here getting this message now if you were one who was willingly occupied and satisfied and found that enough, because more than just a heart and a head that speaks—speaks so much it therefore must be silenced—you have access to the spirit you are that will not be silenced. And it says, More, more, more. I want more. I can give more. There is more.

Well, I guess actually, it begins more like a question: I want more? I give more?

What can you do to move out of the rut that willingly allows the walls around the heart, the narrowing of the mind, the acceptance of the previously unacceptable? What can you do to move out of slow death and into . . . into what? Living while you are alive. Fulfillment of your life’s purpose. What can you do? Very much to the ground this one.

The first thing that I would recommend that you do is something that’s pretty outrageous in this society: I would ask you to give yourself three weeks of it. Right.

No TV.

S: Say it aloud.

No TV.

S: Right. Knowing that we‘re talking about an addictive substance here, I would like to make a suggestion as to how to do it. If you cannot do it, arrange with a friend who can record for you. Only watch that which you have previously recorded so that you’re thinking about it, so that you have thought. It does not count to say, All right, Sunday night, let’s start at seven and go until midnight, and then pick and choose out of that. No. You do not watch what you did not plan ahead of time to arrange. You do not watch it at all if you can.

See what happens. What do you do to replace? That’s going to tell you a lot. Not the first week it won’t. The first week it won’t tell you much at all, even though you’re going to get a whole lot out of what you do to replace.

[…]

S: Again?

I said the first week would be withdrawal.

S: Well, it might be withdrawal, but it’s more likely to be a fooled sort of consciousness in which I’m doing without, and I’m doing so well to be doing without, and I’m so good this way, and this isn’t hard at all, and I don’t mind missing this stuff. And so I’m going to put on this very-fine-for-my-mind educational program, and I’m going to watch it later, and I’m going to replace it instead with taking a walk around the block, because that’s good for my physical essence, and I’m going to do what’s good for me now. Aye, you laugh because you’ve done it. You know this. You’ve done it.

And for that first week you’re really just, more often than not, playing games. That’s why I did not say one week. I’ve done that before. I’ve seen what happens. But that first week will let you know the sorts of things that you think you should be doing. And that could be something to take note of.

Start paying attention the second week, when you’re used to the time being open but you’ve found a lot of things you don’t really want to do that you thought you did. And you’re going to be making some real choices. You might discover your library. Yes, you can waste time reading books. You absolutely can. There’s all kinds of stuff out there that’s somewhere between here and Pluto, in that ring of debris. But there’s a difference. When you’re reading it, you’re activating more arenas of yourself than when you’re watching it. It’s very hard to do three or four things when you’re reading. It’s not so hard to do that while you’re watching TV. That should be a signal of something you know.

You might find yourself communicating more with friends, and you might begin finding that you realize you’re not communicating a lot more with friends because you have left them out of your life for so long in lieu of other things. In order to get home in time to watch this, you don’t have that extra bit of conversation. You may find that you make friends out of acquaintances you’ve had for years. You might find that you get more rest. You might find that your rest is better. This is particularly good for those of you that have trouble sleeping. As outrageous as this might sound, [when] you cut out television, your body relaxes.

I’m not suggesting that you do this for the rest of your life. I’m only suggesting you try it for three weeks. See what begins to grow in its place, because what you’re working on is change—the ability to move.

And that is the second thing that I would like to suggest for three weeks: that you move more. But what I’m not talking about here is that you get out and walk. All right. That’s a good thing for you to do, and I do recommend it. But what I’m suggesting here is that you dance. Really. That you dance. I did not say go dancing. I mean right there in your own home. You turn the music on, and you just waltz yourself around the living room. If you happen to have a partner there willing, you just snatch ‘em up and dance around the kitchen.

If you do not dance by holding the other, well, I won’t bite. If you’re not going to dance this way, which seems very awkward to me anyway, and you prefer one of the other versions, go on and do that. Thank you, love.

You’re welcome.

S: But dance. Dance yourself up the stairs. Well, Samuel, it’s sort of hard for me to do that because my neighbors don’t like the music up loud enough for that. Who said anything about playing music? That’s part of what I’m asking you to do. All right, take advantage: If you’ve got that radio on anyway or the television, and it’s making music, dance to it. But what I’m encouraging you to do is to make it up and dance to that, to remember it and dance to that. And if you’re dancing all by yourself, you can do that easily. Aye. If you’re doing it with another, take turns humming it through.

Why would I suggest dancing as an aspect of change? Why? Frank.

Doing silly things . . .

S: Silly!

I feel silly doing that. Allowing yourself to feel silly and doing something unusual opens you up to different, new ideas and different ways of acting. And so it opens up your perceptions of what you can do and let’s you feel good.

S: All right, that’s good. I like that.

It gets rid of some of your inhibitions about I don’t know how to dance . . .

S: Excellent.

. . . but I’m doing it anyway. Hey, maybe this could work in other ways.

S: Lovely. Good. Mona.

I was going to say it moves you out of yourself, and it does release a chemical reaction. it does heighten maybe your […]

S: Good. Good. Very good. Jean.

It’s a creative process.

S: Yes. Yes. Because in this particular way of doing it, it’s a creative process. And anybody, who is stuck in ‘occupied and satisfied’ is stuck there because they’re not feeding their creative self. Now, as I say that, I look at Kathleen, who is a magnificent painter. And we could talk about dancing. Painting is her creative expression. If you have a typical creative expression, don’t do it for three weeks. Do a different one. Something else. And for Bonnie, who is a dancer and has been a dancer, she says, I should not dance? Make it up. Do it new, because that’s a different activity altogether.

I’ve moved to something else, I’ve said no television for three weeks. For three weeks dance. Third thing: Establish a means of creative function. Feed your creativity. If your work is creative work and you need to do that to get your creative rent paid, continue doing it, but the stuff that you do for yourself for fun, try it a new way. Go get a wad of clay, because the idea is to stretch.

Love is a work of the creative mind. Love is an act of the creative heart. Those are two different forms of love I just spoke of there. You change you only when you don’t fear what might happen. There is the bottom line. By allowing yourself to better tune into you, to allow yourself to become looser, a bit freer, to tune in to what you want to in a creative way and ask your body to respond, to purposefully seek stretching what has been, these things go far in helping take the fear away.

You fear failure because you’ve done it before. You forget success because the fear of the failure speaks louder. You sit where you are and you make your world progressively smaller and smaller with a wall around your heart and your head, because it’s better to stay where you are than to risk not succeeding. And that is because you do not trust. You don’t trust you, because you are not the person that is free and playful and easy. And I mean that in a good way. You are the one who is responsible and directed, and only sees the reflection of the past [when it’s] right in front of your face.

Turn off the distractions. Remember how to dance, by making your own music, and moving to it. And begin looking for ways to feed your creativity. These are simple—and more powerful for the simplicity. You can stay occupied. You’ll never again be satisfied. That’s a promise, not a curse, because your awareness now has changed. You related when I said “occupied and satisfied.”

You recognized yourself in some of those stuck places. You’ll never be satisfied with it again. So you may as well give it a try. There is no better time to make change than now, when the energy of change is all around you.

Three weeks. It takes about that long to break a habit. And, beloved ones, I would tell you, slow death is a bad habit. Live. You will find that you remember how very quickly. Live. It’s worth the effort.

Glochanumora. Happy trails.