August 3, 2014

Samuel: Shouldn’t we be rocking with rain, and lightning going on all around? Seems like there was quite a bit of time like that just very recently, eh?

Greetings dears.

Hello, Samuel.

S: ’Twas a very interesting month, July. How did you deal with it? It wasn’t that kind of month. Aye.

I felt a lot of overwhelm but at the same time, I felt a lot of energy coming in.

S: Good. It’s not always that you would necessarily feel such a thing, but when you are aware of it and make yourself sensitive to it, you absolutely would. And I’m really glad to hear, dear, that in spite of the chaos around you, you were still able to make that focus. That says a lot.

Bonnie, Paula, Kathy.

At my house, we’re coping with the new schedule every day for nine weeks, getting out to radiation, that sort of thing, but I’ve noticed that the world is acting really, really crazy.

S: Ya think?

There are wars, and planes coming down, and people doing things that are just hard to understand. It’s hard to grasp what’s behind all of it.

S: What do you think is behind it?

I remember something that you once said about change—that change brings about such chaos. And the world is changing in every way. The cultures, the religious cultures, are still fighting for their old ways . . .

S: Very true.

. . . fighting for power.

S: Fighting for power. Yes. And in some areas people are standing up against it, and in other areas governmental power is standing up and telling what’s going to be, but either way there is a lot of resistance energy going about. Do you remember what resistance is a function of?

Fear.

S: And what kind of fear would be hitting so many peoples in the world?

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S: The unknown is definitely a piece of it. Security issues a very big piece of it.

Fear of change.

S: Fear of change. Fear that the change will not be under their control. Lot of control issues—which are security—which are going to be showing up in larger countries as well. And that’s what you need to pay attention to.

David and I split up. He went on a trip and I didn’t. It was very interesting that we both learned a lot from being alone and not as a couple. David did a lot of socializing, which he normally doesn’t do because he depends on me to be the social person. And I learned a lot about taking care of myself because I tend to, “Oh, the battery is dead in the car, David. Will you do something with it?” And I had to do it myself. So it was a lot of learning that went on, and it was really good for both of us, I think.

S: Good, good. If she [dog] wanted to come up here and lie down and stare at you that way, that would be fine. [Dog interaction]

Right before the trip I had a bit of a surprise where I found out I was going to either have to be involved in a master’s program or lose my job on August first, which I wasn’t exactly expecting on that short of a notice.

S: Wasn’t exactly expecting that, she says.

No. What I realized was I had my moments of freak-out for the first couple of days, but I was determined to not let that experience affect me on the trip, because I really wanted to enjoy it and be at my best. So every time I thought of her, the situation, I just immediately sent her a gold cord. So she had so many gold cords going at her. I’m hoping that you can’t overdo gold cords going at you because . . .

S: She looked like a porcupine, didn’t she?

Anytime something would come up I’d just send it out to her.

S: Good habit. Really good habit.

Yes. So anyway, I’m doing surprisingly well. I don’t have a lot of . . . well, there’s a little irritation at the way it came about, but I don’t have the resentment and anger and fear that could easily happen in this type of situation. It really does show me about the power of focused intent, love as opposed to being afraid. Kind of looking forward to moving on.

S: Great attitude.

And if you want to help me find a job . . . [Laughter]

S: That goes for anybody hearing that as well, because it’s usually a network that brings about the best ones, don’t you think? Good work, good work.

Gwendolyn, you had your hand up?

When Bonnie was talking, I was thinking, with technology, people are influenced, or people of power, try to influence people by what they allow them.

S: People use technology to try to influence people . . .

That’s right, so that would end in confusion. It’s got to be difficult when you’re at one of those places and you see what’s really going on and then you hear something that is completely different. I can see why people are in fear. Who do they trust?

S: And she can understand why people in these places would be in fear, because what they hear in the media is going on where they live and what they see is going on where they live are often in very great conflict. And that would be a scary thing. “What’s going on? Who is giving these stories? What am I seeing?” Good point, good point.

Can I add to that?

S: Yes, but do it loudly.

I came across like a meditation you’d given some time ago, and it struck me as the perfect thing because I could do it anytime. It was taking a breath and think of those places in the world that need love and change and breathe out that to them. It seemed to me like I could do that anytime. And you hear something and you want to do something, and it fit that so perfectly for me.

S: Did you hear that? She said that an extremely wise person once gave a visualization exercise for you to do when you want to help places in the world but you want to let yourself think, “Oh, I’m too busy, I can’t do that.” This is something you can do anywhere, anytime. When you breathe in, think of those places you want to send energy to. When you breathe out, with a creation blow, blow that energy to them. Like this. [Demonstrates] Well, now, you know you’ve got to breathe anyway, so putting a focus onto that breath helps.

Now, pardon me for just a moment. [Focusing on Joni’s dog]—She’s hurting, so why don’t you take a moment and send this sweet girl some relaxation, stress relief, and pain relief? Mainly because she’s out of her comfort zone, not so much because of the surgical site. Is she a lap dog? Perhaps being within touching distance would help. Ask the Form later what I had to say. Good. Thank you.

July is a month in which very, very much of the energy going on had to do with physical change in the world, and in you individually. Now, when I say physical change, that also takes in mental and emotional and the way you look at spiritual self, but physical change was very much the “dish of the day,” today’s special, something like that? The month’s special. That energy is going to be letting up in August for those who got it in July. So what you might want to do is take a bit of an inventory to make sure you got it. You might want to ask yourself a few questions, such as, “What’s going on with me physically? What changes have I been noticing?” Then mentally, emotionally as well. Let yourself learn from your experience. For those of you who have been experiencing negative things along those lines, you might want to look at not, “What’s behind this,” but instead, “What action can I take to change this for the better?” And that is very, very much the key right now. “What action can I take to change this for the better?” If it is already a good thing, better might be nice, you think? So, the key is action. Action. All right?

Now, here is where I’m going tonight. I want to talk to you for a little bit about what I think can best be called toxic relationships. Now when you think toxic, what do you think? Toledo. What do you think?

Poison.

S: Poison, something harmful to you. What do you think would make up a toxic relationship? I’m going to mention different kinds of relationships, and I want your thoughts with regard to those relationship? Starting with a long-term mate. What would make a toxic marriage or partnership, intimate partnership?

A lack of balance, where one is more powerful than the other, or more demanding.

S: A lack of balance where one is more powerful or more demanding, and I’m also going to put it the other way: where one chooses to be the submissive, and the maybe even frightened one. Giving power away.

When there’s unhappiness and it devolves into sniping and arguing and attacking and all kinds of negative attention to the other, and it feeds and builds, and everybody joins in.

S: Looking at those things that are the negative in the relationship instead of the positive, and I’m going to haul it back to what Paula said, which is, because things are out of balance. Being at that place where you can’t see the positive anymore.

A lack of common vision.

S: Yes! A lack of common vision. Huge one! Huge one! Now, does it mean that the two of you should be agreed upon everything? No. Does it mean you’ve got to have the same spiritual levels? No. What does it mean to have a common vision?

It means you want the quality of the relationship to benefit both people, that you are willing to commit to making that the responsibility of both partners, and that you are diligent in supporting them.

S: Good, very good.

I think it can also be much more basic than that. People, a couple who have children and don’t get along may decide they have a common vision of creating the best relationship they can to create a happy home for the children.

S: Good, good. Yes, yes.

Conscious agreement to how you’re going to live your life.

S: The key there is conscious agreement. Excellent. Conscious agreement. Way too often people look at the relationship and say, “We’ve got a common vision” because they’re doing a lot of the same things. And that’s not it at all. It’s a whole different animal. “Let’s get together, talk about this, let’s consciously work on this.”

And without that, the relationship grows toxic. And when I say grows, I want you to realize what I am saying, because a small amount of that toxicity was already there or there would have been consciousness in the first place. In long-term intimate relationships it is not at all uncommon for toxicity to grow because people are no longer paying attention to the little things. They are no longer doing those things that they did when they were falling in love. They are no longer looking at their lives as something that is a unit, but they each have their own thing and never the twain do meet. Now it’s important, mind you, to be independent, and, as Paula was saying earlier, learning to be self-reliant, but not two separate lives that pass in the hallway occasionally, because that is the fertilizer for toxicity.

What about a friendship? What makes a friendship toxic?

Friends. [Laughter]

S: Friends, all right. Thank you, David.

Giving advice, unsolicited advice,

S: Letting them know that you know what they need better than they know what they need. That’s what unsolicited advice is saying. That’s good.

An imbalance of power.

S: That’s right.

A lack of honesty. An unwillingness to be vulnerable.

S: That’s two different things that feed each other. A lack of honesty as well as being unwilling to be vulnerable. In Cambodia, one of the exercises that I gave the group was to look at the things in their life they try to keep hidden, the little slimy parts that they don’t want anyone to see or that they’ve convinced themselves aren’t really there. It was a part of a healing process that went on. It was very interesting for me to watch what was going on with that, because some people were very into it—“Beat me up, go ahead. Make me feel awful about myself.” Some people were highly resistant to it at all. It’s very scary to be vulnerable to another. It’s even scarier to be vulnerable to yourself, and being truly honest puts you there. Now, having said that, I also want to say, we’re not talking blunt, hit-you-over-the-head-with-a-two-by-four honesty. We are talking compassionate; we are talking loving; we’re not talking reactive. Honesty, vulnerability.

Bonnie, and then Gwen.

A friend I’ve had since two years of age—we grew up together and went through the teenage years—our lives went in kind of two different directions. And yet I can see a commonness, a common quality . . .

S: I thought you said a communist. [Laughter]

A common quality in how she lives her life. It’s a respect for that difference.

S: Nice, nice. There needs to be respect, and that includes  respect for the differences, which is unfortunately something many of you don’t get from the people closest to you. And that’s a lot of why you don’t want to be around those people: an unwillingness to respect, appreciate, recognize.

Communication. So many people just withhold that.

S: Poor communication, or withholding good communication. That will throw a friendship to the ground and stomp on it a while.

David.

Sort of this teeter-totter where you need to find a balance between not giving a hoot—and at that level, you’re finding out what you can use out of that relationship, what you get out of it, what’s in it for me, or gossip, or anything like that—to a compassionate one in the middle, to being absorbed in the relationship, and taking on their problems and trying to solve them. Trying to find that middle where you’re there for the person but you’re still separate and you can still send love and everything without their life taking over yours.

S: Nice, nice. Well said, too.

Now, just looking at these two directions, because they tend to be the most important kinds of relationships in your life—your long-term commitments and your friendships—and in a moment I’ll say family, and in a moment I’ll say the casual kind of acquaintances. But as an adult you tend to have more in your life of your committed relationship and your friends that can lead you into toxicity or are generally toxic. Did you notice something about both of those sets of issues?

The imbalance of power.

S: Imbalance of power, yes, is very much behind it. But did you notice both sets could work for the other set? In fact, you might even be able to say in those relationships that are important to you in your life, those are the things that throw it off. Now, I have a question for you. In your life, amongst your committed relationships and amongst your friends, do you have a toxic relationship? If you do, don’t raise your hand; just hold onto that. But if you do, why?

All right. I’m moving along now. Family. What makes a toxic relationship in a family? And yes, some of these same things are going to come up. But what other things that tend to be unique to family?

Kathy first.

The other person relies on you to validate their sense of self and their worthiness.

S: When within a family unit you’re the one called upon to validate their feeling good about their own self. That does put quite a burden on you.

Gwendolyn, David, Paula, Mary Claire

Manipulation.

S: Manipulation. Yes. Manipulation that isn’t the compassionate-leadership version. Manipulation. Good.

Mine was pretty much the same. It was manipulation through guilt and the fact  there’s an inherent responsibility that you’re supposed to do this and the family tends to lean on that.

S: Maybe even unsaid, but made so clear if you don’t do it. Training by punishment for omission. Families are good at that one.

Wanting to please in order to get the love of family members.

S: Which is sort of a version of what Kathy said. Another way of saying and a slightly different perspective on it: to gain approval, you become a pleaser, or a peace-maker or a. . . and you can start filling in the blanks. But playing a role that isn’t your favorite thing to do in order for everybody to be happy. Because, of course, you are in charge of everybody’s happiness.

Pink ribbons.

S: Pink ribbons, that’s right. Tying pink ribbons on everybody because it makes you feel better. Very true.

Families also have a tendency to hold you frozen in time. You’re always that child, you’re always at a certain age, and they relate to you that way. It’s very frustrating when you’re a grown person and your interest in everything is so much different, and you’ve grown and changed, and your interest in everything is so much different. And they don’t see the person standing in front of them. They see the child or that person frozen in time.

S: Because that’s the one they could relate to. And not being able to relate to this person, it’s just easier to keep you a child. Unfortunate but very true.

Mary.

it goes along with Mary Claire’s, but history and baggage. Things just get carried along for whatever reason.

S: History and baggage, yes.

Angela, you had your hand up?

It’s similar to what Mary said. Sometimes things that are unforgiven but not really talked about, and they have this dynamic that just continues under the surface for years.

S: Don’t you love that?

Just the word expectations, which ties in with what a lot of people are saying.

S: Yes. In fact, he’s hit it right there. The biggest toxicity in family relationships has to do with expectations. And you can pretty much put all of the other pieces in that expectation package: their expectations on you, yours on them. And again, that also fits for the other relationships we have discussed.

What about casual acquaintances? What makes those relationships toxic?

I think those types of relationships are less likely to get into a toxic level because they’re for brief moments and there’s no commitment in the relationship. I’ve had brief encounters that were toxic. Driving, someone can get angry at you. If you do something and they think, oh, I was intentionally doing something, they could get really angry and it might affect me. I don’t know if I’d call that toxic, as much as a real unpleasant experience, a one-time thing.

S: Yes, yes. Bonnie, Frank, David, Cam again, David, and Mary.

I find sometimes it’s easier if I’m unconscious to fall into a toxic casual relationship than a closer relationship because it’s easier to look for common grounds that are negative, to complain about something, to get into griping, and things like that, because in our culture, at least, it’s much easier to be standing in line with someone and they’re griping about how long it’s taking.

S: So, negativity.

I’m thinking of personal situations that have to do with enabling that has caused such a terrible toxic effect in so many directions.

S: Yes, yes.

. . . and the fear of confrontation, I think, too. Afraid to address it, afraid to go there.

S: Yes, and that goes back to truth, honesty, balance. It’s a big one.

It was Bonnie, Frank. Who was after Frank?

I think casual friendships set up the opportunity more for judgment, so I can judge someone else so much more easily, and then it’s toxic, it’s self-toxic.

S: And that’s because you don’t know them enough to understand, so it’s quite easy to judge. And anytime—anytime—you’re judging another, that’s going to end up eating on you to the point that you start judging yourself. That’s how that works.

I was going to say our own prejudices and judgments.

S: Good, good. Mary?

Expectations and fear.

S: Yes, yes.

Well, familiarity is a factor in the intimate relationship as well as the casual relationship. If familiarity is not present as much in a casual relationship, then you draw from your own experience in terms of the observation of that person.

S: I’m going to put that into the judgment category.

In the family relationship or in a more intimate relationship, familiarity, I think, shows itself up in knowing what buttons to push.

S: Yes. True, true. Frank.

I’m wondering where—I don’t think this is a toxic kind of relationship we’ve talked about—it seems like there can be relationships that appear to be working for two people, but it’s toxic in that they’re reinforcing each other’s negative aspects, maybe destructive tendencies, self-destructive tendencies. They may get along great but it’s destroying each of them.

S: There is no single category for that either. That’s one of those that will go across the board.

Here is where I’m going with this: You have chosen in your life to live love. You really recognize the importance of that. You choose to do that. You have people in your life who take your confidence in your ability to do that away. They take away your confidence that you can and are living love, on a spiritual journey, here to help the world, because there are toxic behaviors within that relationship that you are simply allowing to be there.

So I’m going to go back to where I asked earlier, “Why?” Why would a person do that? Well, one reason is because, as was said earlier, they’re afraid of change. But mainly it’s going to have to do with a lack of confidence that they can manage without this person. And of course, there are going to be several different reasons for that: maybe it’s economic, maybe it has to do with the sex is really good—“I won’t find that elsewhere.” Maybe it has to do with I won’t find somebody who cooks that well or gardens like that.

Why do you allow that in your life? One reason is because you have no idea how short your life is. You have no idea that this might be your very last day on earth. Now, truth be told, for most of you, that’s not the case at all. This life is an exhale in the greater expanse of the life of the spirit you are. It seems to take longer than a breath when you’re focused on your fears, expectations, difficulties, negativities, pain. That pulls things out and drags it along so that you start thinking, I’ve had a really long life. And years has nothing to do with that. You know the expression “Time flies when you’re having fun.” It’s because you’re not focused on yourself in the same way, and living your life in such a way that you’re not always focused on you, because that’s when you feel the pain, that’s when you feel the expectations, that’s when you start falling off the path. Looking at yourself makes it take longer. Looking at others, enjoying your experience, laughing, playing, you begin to see how quickly it goes. You don’t have time for toxicity in your life. Why do you need it?

Well, let me throw one thing out in that regard. There are situations in every life in which you’re stuck being around a toxic person. It might be a co-worker or a boss; it might be a family member. Situations in which you’ve got to be there means that you need to be sure that in the rest of your life your relationships have to be as clear and clean and happy and balanced as they can be so that you have a refuge from that really toxic one you can’t get away from.

But with regard to that idea of “can’t get away from it,” you need to think very well about that. Is it really true there’s nothing you can do? I want to remind you of something Kathy said earlier. She was hit with a very shocking, “You’re going to lose your job when you get back,” statement, and it frankly has been a very toxic situation for some time. And her response was to do what?

Gold cord.

S: It’s a visualization that involves just sending love to that person. You imagine, like a straw, a drinking straw, a cord of light going from your heart to that person’s heart, and you just fill it with love, fill it with love until that person is filled with love. And what did she say the result was from doing that?

Feeling accepting.

S: Accepting, less fear, feeling better. Did it change that person? Who knows?

I’ll find out on Wednesday.

S: But it changed her. And that’s the key. Any toxic relationship you have in your life is there because you want it to be. You are willing to put up with it. You are willing to allow it to infect you, and you need to look at that. You need to take a look at why that’s okay. You might have a very good excuse for it. There might be a perfect justification for keeping that toxicity going. But you can change you within it. You know that expression, “You cannot have a boxing match with just one person.” You can change you. Now I’m going to use one of those New Age curse words: You should change you.

So Samuel, the relationship I have with my brother, I guess after mom died it was very toxic, and I tried to resolve that and I sent him a letter and all this. And so what I did was I just distanced myself because I wasn’t getting anywhere. So it seems like with the passage of time, it’s . . . I don’t remember them as bad, in such a negative way—what was going on . . .

S: Because it’s not being fed on a regular basis.

So when I go back and think about that there’s hurt, when I think about it. So is hurt part of toxicity?

S: Darlin’, we’re not talking simple toxicity there. That’s more like a death ray or something. Abuse, truly, abuse. And I don’t recommend that any of you hang around for that. But generally speaking, I say turn the other cheek, all four of them. Once they’ve had those four chances—you’ve done your best, you’ve tried to repair the relationship, you’ve tried to make it work—then you need to start looking at why you’re still so involved with something bringing you such pain, and that’s when moving yourself out of the situation is the smart thing to do. Does that mean you’ve got to burn all the bridges and never send a holiday card or never communicate in any kind of way when they reach out a hand? No, it doesn’t mean that. But it does mean you’ve given it your best. Occasionally check in to see if anything’s changed, and if it has not, stay away. And the truth is, particularly with family, staying away can be the hardest thing on you; may not be hard on the abuser at all, but so hard on you. But once you have been able to let go a little, you start seeing yourself coming back, and it starts to feel good, and that lets you stay away a little longer, and a little longer. Then maybe two to three years down the road, you run into this brother while you’re out shopping, or you suddenly start thinking of them quite a bit, and that’s the time to be polite, see where it’s going, and make a decision. Don’t abuse that. There’s two ways to abuse it. One is to never use it, and the other is to use it for any little thing.

There is a difference between abuse and just no chemistry. Don’t mix them up.

Now, why am I going through toxic relationships now, over and above that your life is too short, stop putting up with that? But the reason is because some of you are the toxic ones in the relationship. “Samuel, how can that be possible?” I want to go back to expectations, to lack of balance, to lack of conscious communication, of letting things slide because it’s very convenient, of not seeing your own issues, of placing them on the other, of thinking that because two or  three times a week you can be extremely spiritual, or that once a month you can be extremely spiritual and that covers you because of those times you’re not.

Being a victim is toxic. Making someone else a victim is toxic.

And during this vital month, a month that is starting a transition, taking action in your life is going to be coming up a lot. And you’re going to have opportunities to see if you are the toxic part of the relationship or if it’s someone else. And if it’s you, what are you going to do? I’m asking. If it’s you, what are you going to do? “I know, Samuel, I’m just going to ignore it, because that’s always worked.”

With the family member, in which it kind of goes back and forth because we have over this lifetime learned each other’s buttons. I realized in my own frustration that I had to change. It was the only one that I could change.

S: Right.

But by doing that, it made a change in them.

S: Set off a whole lot more buttons.

So I think sometimes these relationships are for us to learn and move through those sorts of things, recognizing that like attracts like. Who said that? It was you. So that if you look at things in that view, you can see your part in it. Instead of withdrawing, seems like you have to start fixing yourself, changing yourself.

S: And if you don’t see your part in it, you’re not looking hard enough. And as Gwendolyn said, the key is, you’ve got to change yourself. You’ve got to take a look and say, “All right, it’s these behaviors.” As a for instance, “I react,” or “I’m so optimistic and hoping for the best at all times that I’m willing to put up with the nasty stuff in case it gets better.” And you are empowering that behavior.

Now, the question was, what do you do when you recognize your part in it? And the very simple answer was, you change. It’s easy to say, though.

What else?

Forgive yourself.

S: Forgive yourself, because you can’t move out of that place until you have resolved your piece in it.

Carefully communicate with the other.

S: This has to do with what you do when you recognize yourself in it. So what kind of careful communication might that be from you?

Taking responsibility.

S: Good. Taking responsibility for you own actions and . . .

Apologize.

S: Apologizing, making amends where you can, and letting go.

There seems to be an assumption that you got it right.

S: What?

That in fact, my part is this, and that’s just my perception, that my part of it is this. And I could be wrong. So I have to be willing to be wrong.

S: That’s right.

And that’s where what Cam said also comes in. There has to be some other communication to be able to find out that, “Hey, I’m in a blind spot. I can’t do it all on my own. I have to communicate because that’s probably why I got into the toxic relationship in the first place—thinking I was right.”

S: My part in making it toxic was assuming that my perspective was the right one, that what I saw was the right one. And recognizing that there are two pieces to it. Very helpful.

Well, I was just thinking about it, and sort of realizing that I think that I am in a toxic relationship with myself.

S: Nice. Not that you’re in a toxic relationship with yourself, but nice to recognize that.

What did she say?

S: Listening to these symptoms of toxic relationships, she realized that she has a toxic relationship with her own self. Not that it’s who you are right now. But can you relate in your own life to that? Truly, the bottom line of it is, when you are in a toxic relationship with yourself, that’s planting the seeds for the toxicity in all your other relationships. But you fix it the same way. You take a look. You take action to change it. You resolve those issues. You forgive.

And then there’s one more toxic relationship, and that’s your toxic relationship with Source. All of those relationships outside of yourself, the relationship with yourself, and then the relationship with Source—these are where toxic relationships show up in your life. But a toxic relationship with Source, or God if you prefer to think that way—I think that’s a little limiting but all right—how does that happen?

For me its expectation, an unequal balance of power.

S: Right there. It’s expectation. And the expectation creates that imbalance. And how do you fix it with Source? You change. You take action. That’s exactly what you do. And taking action through all three of those categories of relationship, taking action to bring about a change is where healing begins. A conscious choice, “I’m going to change this.”

Do not forget the old joke—I seem to like it more than anyone else does. The old couple riding together in the car, husband driving away, the wife says, “We used to cuddle in the car, we used to sit close.” And he says, “I haven’t moved.”

You are made of Source, so any issue that you have is your issue with you. You’re never angry at Source; you’re angry at yourself. And you come up with all of these reasons as to why, and I’ve heard a lot of them. And as Gwendolyn said but not loudly enough for everyone to hear earlier, it involves looking in the mirror, seeing the Source in you, making peace with that—because that’s a hard one. It’s a real hard one. Because you see all of the faults.

Did you ever bake a cake and see it crack. So of course the answer is to throw away the cake, right? Maybe the answer is to fill that crack with frosting, and then cover the whole thing and no one will see it, but it will make it that much sweeter? You see the cracks. And let’s make love—for yourself, for your work here, for your life here—the frosting. Fill up those cracks. Frost it big. It’ll make the whole cake better.

One last thing: I gave the group in Cambodia a visual I want to share with all of you. It was a way of sending love. It was very effective because it’s such an easy visual. Every day, surround yourself in love. See yourself living in a great hamster ball of love. As you go through your day you are surrounded in love. Anything that comes in is love, anything that goes out is love. But you live in a vast bubble of love. If you put that consciously into your life you will be literally removing toxicity. It’s a simple, easy change. The great hamster ball of love.

Big month. Pay attention to these things. Look carefully at them. Ask yourself, “Why am I allowing this? What action can I take to shift it?” All right.

Glochanumora.